None of our 4 kids were planned...but all are wanted. All homebirthed and homeschooled - I took 2 weeks holiday when each was born. My life has certainly changed from the selfish young man I was 30 years ago.
any fathers who didn't want children here?
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Originally Posted By: IndyIan
Heck, in Ontario I could take 37 weeks off work to help take care of a newborn sometime in the first year and get paid ~$400 a week from the province to do it.
The main idea is to help parents and fathers bond with their children without having to worry about work. It seems crazy to me that in the U.S. this isn't done as well.
It isn't the function of government to help parents bond with a child (at least not in the U.S. at tax payers expense.....yet).
It seems crazy to me that a government would PAY a father to stay home to care for the children when the mother is present.
Heck, in Ontario I could take 37 weeks off work to help take care of a newborn sometime in the first year and get paid ~$400 a week from the province to do it.
The main idea is to help parents and fathers bond with their children without having to worry about work. It seems crazy to me that in the U.S. this isn't done as well.
It isn't the function of government to help parents bond with a child (at least not in the U.S. at tax payers expense.....yet).
It seems crazy to me that a government would PAY a father to stay home to care for the children when the mother is present.
Originally Posted By: Cutehumor
I don't feel guilty taking 6 weeks of FMLA for our first born. 4 weeks out of the 6 weeks will be paid out of my vacation time that I have saved all year. I even bought an extra 5 days of vacation next year out of my salary to spend time with my daughter. Family is more important to me, I guess I'm new school.
And family wasn't as important to the previous generations of fathers that worked hard to keep food on the table? I would say that fathers have actually DEGRADED in quality in the last few decades....regardless of the actions of the FMLA and such.
I don't feel guilty taking 6 weeks of FMLA for our first born. 4 weeks out of the 6 weeks will be paid out of my vacation time that I have saved all year. I even bought an extra 5 days of vacation next year out of my salary to spend time with my daughter. Family is more important to me, I guess I'm new school.
And family wasn't as important to the previous generations of fathers that worked hard to keep food on the table? I would say that fathers have actually DEGRADED in quality in the last few decades....regardless of the actions of the FMLA and such.
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Originally Posted By: IndyIan
Heck, in Ontario I could take 37 weeks off work to help take care of a newborn sometime in the first year and get paid ~$400 a week from the province to do it.
The main idea is to help parents and fathers bond with their children without having to worry about work. It seems crazy to me that in the U.S. this isn't done as well.
It isn't the function of government to help parents bond with a child (at least not in the U.S. at tax payers expense.....yet).
It seems crazy to me that a government would PAY a father to stay home to care for the children when the mother is present.
Well what's the point of government if it doesn't help you raise a happy healthy family? I have to be employed to be able to qualify as well and I've paid more than enough taxes to cover $400 for many years, let alone 37 weeks.
Without benefits like this you have lots of working mothers that have to return to work within a couple weeks of having a child, which is pretty sad in many ways...
Originally Posted By: IndyIan
Heck, in Ontario I could take 37 weeks off work to help take care of a newborn sometime in the first year and get paid ~$400 a week from the province to do it.
The main idea is to help parents and fathers bond with their children without having to worry about work. It seems crazy to me that in the U.S. this isn't done as well.
It isn't the function of government to help parents bond with a child (at least not in the U.S. at tax payers expense.....yet).
It seems crazy to me that a government would PAY a father to stay home to care for the children when the mother is present.
Well what's the point of government if it doesn't help you raise a happy healthy family? I have to be employed to be able to qualify as well and I've paid more than enough taxes to cover $400 for many years, let alone 37 weeks.
Without benefits like this you have lots of working mothers that have to return to work within a couple weeks of having a child, which is pretty sad in many ways...
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