We own an '05, and echo the comments about staying away from anything older than the '04 model year. The '04 got the new and much better transmission. The '05 got a fascia refresh that included a new front fascia, new projector beam headlamps vs. the older reflectors, and new rear tail lamps. I think '04 received the dual muffler exhaust with two separate outlets, but if not, all '05s had that.
I can't say enough about how well this vehicle handles and drives. It's a 4500-pound SUV, but truly drives like it weighs much less. The AWD system is excellent, and includes a lockable rear differential (part of the VTM+4 system). Ours is the Touring model, with navigation and rear DVD, and all that stuff works very well. The seat heaters are strong and the front seats are very comfortable. The third row works very well for our 5 year old, and I can sit back there sideways if I have to, but it's honestly not reasonable to put anyone over 5' tall back there for any length of time.
Despite the "current" EPA rating of 15/21 for that vehicle, we get about 17.5mpg in town and 22-23mpg on the road with it, which isn't all that dissimilar from the '07 Chrysler minivan that this vehicle replaced. The rear doors are short, making them easy to use in crowded parking lots. Lots of small details on this vehicle that you will learn to appreciate, but don't read in most reviews.