I’ve got about the same theory, having studied what I can about the CDF failure, though certainly I’ve been told I’m wrong.
I think that the CDF failure is due to a weakness in the CDF drum, exacerbated by shift slams from errant valve body activity. If you look at the misaligned CDF drums, there is usually physical galling, metal on metal contact. I suspect that the pressures which force that binding into play, are then added onto drum stress from the binding itself - and the two work together to walk and twist the drum apart, which mis-aligns the fluid passages. Passage misalignment doesn’t get undone. The more it happens, the more permanent the failure becomes.
Case in point - my 10r80 was a real problem at 18k. Dealer wasn’t going to help, but I got it on record. Tried fluid changes… ended up with a partial mix of 1:4 amsoil:Mercon, plus lubeguard red at 1/4 dose. It then became nearly flawless and held together for 40,000 miles with almost no change in behavior until just recently. I refreshed the fluids (same ratio) and the LG. It is slightly worse than it was, nothing like it was at 18k. Whatever I did has slowed the rate of decay. And that’s why I think the two issues play off each other.
Other variable - loading. We towed with the truck a lot, early in its life. Rarely now, so another factor there is it was degrading higher when we towed with it.
I plan to keep the 1:4 ratio of the thicker amsoil fluid in there. The thicker fluid detracts ever so slightly with shift timing. However, thanks to learning of the CDF issue from this forum, I believe the amsoil additive pack and slight increase in viscosity should reduce bushing contact and galling, while the LG seems to prevent the VB from sticking during the upshift from 3rd, hopefully preserving the integrity of the CDF drum, or at least stretching it out a few more years.