"Friendships....relationships....communities all involve sharing of duties...responsibilities...benefits." Bernie...is that you? I thought you lived in Vermont. Could be Karl Marx, but he's dead...
"What's in it for me" is merely one part of fairness selfishness. Fixed it for you. And if such a metric works for you, then so be it.
Nobody is claiming any level of superiority whatsoever. If you feel inferior that's your hangup. And if you're sickened, perhaps you should consult a doctor.
There are indeed all kinds of people everywhere. My point is that my community is the most caring and thoughtful place I've ever lived. And after a 25-year military career that is a lot of different places -- 13 to be precise. There's nobody like people from Corpus. Maybe that's a key motivation for people leaving New York (and similar places) in droves and coming here.
I've lent my vehicles to folks many, many times. And I let people use my stuff as often as they need it if I can accommodate them. I maintain it, so it's pretty resilient. Altruism (you can look it up) does not equal enabling.
"And the king will say to them in reply, ‘Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me."
- Matthew 25:40