Would you let someone borrow your car for $40
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Sunday School meets real life.
FYI:
Friendships....relationships....communities all involve sharing of duties...responsibilities...benefits.
"What's in it for me" is merely one part of fairness.
Skip the "We're better (holier) than you", posts.
They sicken me.
You know darn well there are users and selfish and thoughtless people in Texas.
Really depends.
If it’s my friends lively hood this question would never come up.
If it was my good buddy where we each do a bunch for another and it was the difference between getting a dream car or truck for a good deal that couldn’t wait. Yeah I would. And when this particular friend I wouldn’t worry twice about it. In fact the truck would prob come back with more fuel in it than it started.
Depends upon the person really.
If it’s my friends lively hood this question would never come up.
If it was my good buddy where we each do a bunch for another and it was the difference between getting a dream car or truck for a good deal that couldn’t wait. Yeah I would. And when this particular friend I wouldn’t worry twice about it. In fact the truck would prob come back with more fuel in it than it started.
Depends upon the person really.
I'll look into it, for now I like the idea of me and my wife as drivers, so it doesn't matter much to me.
I also do not lend my vehicles to anyone. Your "buddy" is taking advantage of you. You will get along much worse if he breaks something.
Not to mention its possible your insurance company would consider this "commercial use" if there did end up being a problem. Depends on the story behind this trailer.
People need to pull up their boot straps. This isn't about helping someone out in need.
Not to mention its possible your insurance company would consider this "commercial use" if there did end up being a problem. Depends on the story behind this trailer.
People need to pull up their boot straps. This isn't about helping someone out in need.
In college, a friend of mind wanted to carpool. Or rather be shuttled since he didn't have a car. He paid what we agreed upon so no problem there but he had a problem being ready when I came to get him and our class schedules weren't completely in sync. I was a computer student so on days I had to wait for his classes to end, I'd be in the lab, or would be working on homework in the library if I didn't need computer time, but he started to complain on having to wait on me when my schedule ran late. After a month of that I suggested that we end the arrangement and that was that.
Back on-topic. No. No, no, no. Asking to borrow the truck just to drive that distance would be reason enough for me to decline, but towing something in addition...again, no.
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I'm the only one of my friend's that has a larger car and I let them take my car whenever they want, as long as they leave one for me only because I completely trust them. There's only three friends that I'll allow this amount of trust though.
But in your case, no. By not learning his lesson, your friend is taking advantage of you by constantly asking for your help. At this point, he almost expects you to help him.
But in your case, no. By not learning his lesson, your friend is taking advantage of you by constantly asking for your help. At this point, he almost expects you to help him.
This is the camp I'm in; it's ok as long as I trust you AND you're not taking advantage. I have one family member that just takes and takes, so in that situation it's a no. My younger brothers truck is in the shop right now and he's using our Corolla. He's very respectful and grateful so we don't mind at all.
If easy/convenient I will usually offer to help. Sounds like you are trusting your gut OP.
"Friendships....relationships....communities all involve sharing of duties...responsibilities...benefits." Bernie...is that you? I thought you lived in Vermont. Could be Karl Marx, but he's dead...
"What's in it for me" is merely one part of
Nobody is claiming any level of superiority whatsoever. If you feel inferior that's your hangup. And if you're sickened, perhaps you should consult a doctor.
There are indeed all kinds of people everywhere. My point is that my community is the most caring and thoughtful place I've ever lived. And after a 25-year military career that is a lot of different places -- 13 to be precise. There's nobody like people from Corpus. Maybe that's a key motivation for people leaving New York (and similar places) in droves and coming here.
I've lent my vehicles to folks many, many times. And I let people use my stuff as often as they need it if I can accommodate them. I maintain it, so it's pretty resilient. Altruism (you can look it up) does not equal enabling.
"And the king will say to them in reply, ‘Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me."
- Matthew 25:40
$40? It's an insult he even asked you that, or, they're just clueless...........maybe both.
Your response was correct. Not only no, but BLEEP no......
Your response was correct. Not only no, but BLEEP no......
I don’t expect anything back for my time and efforts. Heck I’d have no issues do it for free on the weekends when I’m off so long as he pays for the fuel to run 200 miles. If it was a local run I’m not gonna bug over $10 in fuel.
But at this point I’m just trying to justify his request. Towing a trailer 200 miles for profit sounds more of a business transaction than if he needs to drive 200 miles because of a family emergency. If it was the latter I wouldn’t even question it. Although I’m not good enough of friends with him where it’d be a no brainer for me. I have other friends that I know would offer me the same assistance in a pinch so yeah, if they needed a vehicle in a pinch take the keys.
This guy, while he may not be against helping me, is hard to reach because he’s always doing his own thing and therefore if needed to reciprocate he likely wouldn’t be available. Heck last year when I was stuck on a boat ramp because my 4wd broke he was in another state. When my motorcycle broke down…he was in another state. Bad timing? Maybe. But the help has always been one way.
FWIW I've always been very lenient when it comes to lending out cars and my truck but I have responsible friends and family members. I just let them use for free and just ask to put some gas in when they return it. I always seem to get a full tank upon return.
When I had my business friends/ family always asking if they could borrow one of the vans or box trucks.In the beginning I would just go empty one of them out drive and help them out. After awhile that got old time was money to me I just said trucks are loaded for Monday not available but I never would just lend a truck out i needed them to make a living
I hate people who are always trying to get over. You don't owe him anything; it ain't your deal. He can go rent something.
Now that I think about it, the housings had melted because the PO installed aftermarket HIDs in it. So when I brought the car it basically was a sealed headlight. If the light hadn’t blew out I would’ve been fine, but I believe they turned the light on/off one too many times and the HID couldn’t handle it.
Maybe wasn’t all their fault, but in the end I still had to buy a pair of lights after letting someone borrow my car. And it came back with less fuel. To me it’s not about the money but the principle. Atleast fill the tank back to where it was when I lent it out(full)
while this trailer business is his only income, frankly it’s just his poor planning and constant “need it done right now” mentality all while he doesn’t have his ducks lined up. I have no issues running the trailer for him if it’s my day off but he expects me to take a day off for him? At this point it’s like what do I get out of it if I’m offering up that much. My boss does not like people who he cant depend on(I’ve seen people get dropped for no shows and constant callouts because it’s shift work and one missing person means everybody else takes up the slack). It’s my livelihood vs buddy’s.
And with that being said, it’s not like he needs to sell the trailer today. Buyer agreed to come by next weekend. Buddy just wants the deal done asap. While I get the urgency, there’s other ways about it.
Let me rephrase my comment. The question would never come up because if a friend of mine relied on a truck to make money they’d surely have their stuff sorted out and the question would never come up.
Kinda unreasonable to ask you to take off unless it’s a cool thing not a money maker.
I’d play hooky to go buy a sweet car with a buddy!
