Why do you continue to wear a wedding ring after your spouse has died ?
Why wear wedding ring after spous' death?
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There could be various reasons. For one, it may give a person some comfort, still feeling the attachment. Another reason could be to prevent being hit on while you're still grieving and not ready to move on.
I know people that have. People can grieve and show remembrance any way they want.
I am a very lucky man. My wife and i are a perfect match and were meant for each other. I'm 57 this year, and we will be married 34 years this dec.
If something happens to her first, i can say i will not remarry. I would probably continue to wear my ring. Being in the medical field, i don't wear one at all at work, you will lose them. At one time i was wearing cheap stainless bands to work. But even those eventually get lost. So i only wear a wedding band on my non call weekends.
I would not remarry, our marriage is a once in a lifetime miracle. Anything else after would be a disappointment. Therefore i would probably wear it.
If something happens to her first, i can say i will not remarry. I would probably continue to wear my ring. Being in the medical field, i don't wear one at all at work, you will lose them. At one time i was wearing cheap stainless bands to work. But even those eventually get lost. So i only wear a wedding band on my non call weekends.
I would not remarry, our marriage is a once in a lifetime miracle. Anything else after would be a disappointment. Therefore i would probably wear it.
Ditto!
I think many don’t want another spouse. They lived their life together and depending on age and circumstance that chapter may be over. At last control over the remote. That may be enough for some.
I worked in the machining trades for 45 years. Rings were never permitted for obvious reasons. So I never wore one. Now that I'm retired I handle guns most every day. Rings scratch the hell out of guns, so I still don't wear one. Plus I have no idea where it is. Been married for 38 years. For what it's worth, my dog doesn't wear a collar either. He's been with us almost 9 years.
I don't know yet, but I will tell you in the morning.
Seriously, be it you were married one year or 50 years. That ring is a heart felt dedication to the spouse you chose to be with you for the rest of your life. You don't have to wear it on your wedding ring finger. Had my spouse and I were separated due to health or some other avoidable manner, I would have wore mine on my right hand finger.
My mom passed away early 2013. My parents were married 37 years, my dad had a new girlfriend maybe 18 months later, still to this day with the same person. I don’t think they have any plans of getting married.
Anyway, he still wears his ring. He’s not one to talk about that stuff but it obviously doesn’t bother either of them. I think it’s nice.
Anyway, he still wears his ring. He’s not one to talk about that stuff but it obviously doesn’t bother either of them. I think it’s nice.
My 96 year old neighbor passed last year, his wife passed 4 years before him, they'd been married for like 70 years, to him they were still married.
If I lost my wife after all of our life together(41 yrs thus far), I would always want to keep her memory velcro'd to my heart & soul. She will always be there and I wouldn't want another. I would feel like a part of me has died along with her and I don't want to start dating again.
Not that I wouldn't hunger for some affection at some point again but this remains to be seen/felt at this time. I don't want to date again and get used to someone else's ways where each time we were together, we had to put on our party manners and become someone that we're not.
I would keep my wife's memory with me:
*While I was driving, as if she were next to me.
*Working in the yard where she was gardening while I was doing my outside chores
*In the kitchen where she'd be cooking while I was prepping/preparing my specialities
*Watching our favorites on the TV
*Having her next to me each night/morning
Wedding ring is staying on!
Not that I wouldn't hunger for some affection at some point again but this remains to be seen/felt at this time. I don't want to date again and get used to someone else's ways where each time we were together, we had to put on our party manners and become someone that we're not.
I would keep my wife's memory with me:
*While I was driving, as if she were next to me.
*Working in the yard where she was gardening while I was doing my outside chores
*In the kitchen where she'd be cooking while I was prepping/preparing my specialities
*Watching our favorites on the TV
*Having her next to me each night/morning
Wedding ring is staying on!
Everyone has their personal reason. I would look at it as a lasting tribute.
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I’m a semi mechanic and don’t wear one while working. I wear a silicone band otherwise. This brings up something else. What I’ve noticed by walking in cemeteries are couples head stones. I often see a dead spouse and wonder if the wife or husband engraved on the stone is really 100 plus years old or if he/she remarried and no longer wants to Rest In Peace next to the previous spouse.
I never wore one for the same reason some of the others have stated. They can be a real work hazard.
The material itself means nothing, it is what it symbolizes. My wedding ring was like $19, made of Tungsten Carbide. I don't wear it much anymore because I go to the gym everyday and work with my hands a lot. Instead I wear a silicone band that looks just like it. I don't care what material is wrapped around my finger, it is about the symbol to my commitment to my bride.
I'm still "young" (mid 40's) so I can't say if my bride passed tomorrow I would wear the band for the rest of my life, but I would certainly wear it a long time through the mourning process. It would offer two benefits to me. First would be that when people would ask where your spouse was, it would offer the chance to relive a memory as you told them about your past. Second it would (as previously mentioned) ward away advances from ladies you are not ready to deal with yet.
I'm still "young" (mid 40's) so I can't say if my bride passed tomorrow I would wear the band for the rest of my life, but I would certainly wear it a long time through the mourning process. It would offer two benefits to me. First would be that when people would ask where your spouse was, it would offer the chance to relive a memory as you told them about your past. Second it would (as previously mentioned) ward away advances from ladies you are not ready to deal with yet.
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Truly heartening to read those words. Happy for you. Now some of us (meaning ME) are NOT good at picking em!!
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