Top Five Regrets of the Dying
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JHZR2
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Good points there.
Suprised there werent comments about not watching so much TV, eating so much food, etc.
Suprised there werent comments about not watching so much TV, eating so much food, etc.
Thanks for posting that.
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2. I wish I didn’t work so hard
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
I'm there already!
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2. I wish I didn’t work so hard
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
I'm there already!
Originally Posted By: Pablo
Thanks for posting that.
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2. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
I'm there already!
^^Says a guy with 44,000+ posts.
Just a little food for thought...
Thanks for posting that.
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2. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.
I'm there already!
^^Says a guy with 44,000+ posts.
Just a little food for thought...
Originally Posted By: Mixologist
^^Says a guy with 44,000+ posts.
Just a little food for thought...
I hear you. Actually my post count per day is way down. But even at 4400 posts per year for 10 years, what's that - like 12 posts a day. Not so crazy. Since I never go on vacation.
^^Says a guy with 44,000+ posts.
Just a little food for thought...
I hear you. Actually my post count per day is way down. But even at 4400 posts per year for 10 years, what's that - like 12 posts a day. Not so crazy. Since I never go on vacation.
Pablo has taken it easy lately. But that being said I doubt that I can catch him.
Originally Posted By: Article
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
There's a lot of truth to number one. Too many people are worried about what others think or expect of them, and don't follow their dreams. Most don't realize that they do have a choice, and they have the ability to do anything they want if they'll have the courage to go after their dreams.
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
There's a lot of truth to number one. Too many people are worried about what others think or expect of them, and don't follow their dreams. Most don't realize that they do have a choice, and they have the ability to do anything they want if they'll have the courage to go after their dreams.
I hear Pablo...
Been listening to some stuff from a guy who's been dead for most of my life of recent weeks.
We are conditioned to be looking towards the future...when you get to school...when you get to primary school...when you get to college...when you graduate...when you get the promotion...when you get the next stage...then you can rest and be happy.
When you get there, when you feel comfortable that you are in a position to do stuff, then you are a wreck, and your prostate is a mess, and you regret all the time that you spent "trying to get there", instead of the time spent being there. (partially paraphrased).
I can't fathom workmates who borrow $10-15k to take a vacation, knowing that they have to pay back with interest. They reconcile that if something happens, then it's not their problem.
Been listening to some stuff from a guy who's been dead for most of my life of recent weeks.
We are conditioned to be looking towards the future...when you get to school...when you get to primary school...when you get to college...when you graduate...when you get the promotion...when you get the next stage...then you can rest and be happy.
When you get there, when you feel comfortable that you are in a position to do stuff, then you are a wreck, and your prostate is a mess, and you regret all the time that you spent "trying to get there", instead of the time spent being there. (partially paraphrased).
I can't fathom workmates who borrow $10-15k to take a vacation, knowing that they have to pay back with interest. They reconcile that if something happens, then it's not their problem.
Originally Posted By: Pop_Rivit
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
There's a lot of truth to number one. Too many people are worried about what others think or expect of them, and don't follow their dreams. Most don't realize that they do have a choice, and they have the ability to do anything they want if they'll have the courage to go after their dreams.
I took this idea to heart early on in my life and decided to take the "anti successful", less traveled road. I decided that other things were more important than the accumulation of wealth, material things, social and workplace status, etc.. My dream is to be average and avoid the pitfalls of celebrity. My dream is to live a life with a "light footprint" regarding my existence on this planet.
I agree with you on this one, Pop Rivet. Way too many people are miserable trying to achieve the "climb the ladder of success" way of life because that is what has been drilled into everyone for so many years.
I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
There's a lot of truth to number one. Too many people are worried about what others think or expect of them, and don't follow their dreams. Most don't realize that they do have a choice, and they have the ability to do anything they want if they'll have the courage to go after their dreams.
I took this idea to heart early on in my life and decided to take the "anti successful", less traveled road. I decided that other things were more important than the accumulation of wealth, material things, social and workplace status, etc.. My dream is to be average and avoid the pitfalls of celebrity. My dream is to live a life with a "light footprint" regarding my existence on this planet.
I agree with you on this one, Pop Rivet. Way too many people are miserable trying to achieve the "climb the ladder of success" way of life because that is what has been drilled into everyone for so many years.
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Originally Posted By: Shannow
We are conditioned to be looking towards the future...when you get to school...when you get to primary school...when you get to college...when you graduate...when you get the promotion...when you get the next stage...then you can rest and be happy.
This is very true. But then we get the other camp who claims that folks who only do "x" are lazy, not driven, etc.
Rather than being satisfied and making the right choices within your income strata as you fall and are comfortable in.
Its a terribly tough thing, especially given the way that we are advertised to, told what we want, need, etc. It creates the drive for many, but a well paid serf is still a serf, even if they own their own job and it is worth some bucks.
The toughest call is where to draw the line between laziness and drive. I drive hard, but am trying to figure when to just do a phenominal job and not drive higher.
We are conditioned to be looking towards the future...when you get to school...when you get to primary school...when you get to college...when you graduate...when you get the promotion...when you get the next stage...then you can rest and be happy.
This is very true. But then we get the other camp who claims that folks who only do "x" are lazy, not driven, etc.
Rather than being satisfied and making the right choices within your income strata as you fall and are comfortable in.
Its a terribly tough thing, especially given the way that we are advertised to, told what we want, need, etc. It creates the drive for many, but a well paid serf is still a serf, even if they own their own job and it is worth some bucks.
The toughest call is where to draw the line between laziness and drive. I drive hard, but am trying to figure when to just do a phenominal job and not drive higher.
Originally Posted By: rjundi
The work I do can always be done tomorrow.
Quoted for truth. Although those who are more energized from task completion, as opposed to task process, get more from finishing their projects. I guess the point is at what cost?
The work I do can always be done tomorrow.
Quoted for truth. Although those who are more energized from task completion, as opposed to task process, get more from finishing their projects. I guess the point is at what cost?
Originally Posted By: JHZR2
Originally Posted By: Shannow
We are conditioned to be looking towards the future...when you get to school...when you get to primary school...when you get to college...when you graduate...when you get the promotion...when you get the next stage...then you can rest and be happy.
This is very true. But then we get the other camp who claims that folks who only do "x" are lazy, not driven, etc.
Rather than being satisfied and making the right choices within your income strata as you fall and are comfortable in.
Its a terribly tough thing, especially given the way that we are advertised to, told what we want, need, etc. It creates the drive for many, but a well paid serf is still a serf, even if they own their own job and it is worth some bucks.
The toughest call is where to draw the line between laziness and drive. I drive hard, but am trying to figure when to just do a phenominal job and not drive higher.
Missing out on events and milestones in family life is where I would draw the line. I work to live, not live to work. Smart spending will provide more peace of mind than overcompensating with more work any day.
Originally Posted By: Shannow
We are conditioned to be looking towards the future...when you get to school...when you get to primary school...when you get to college...when you graduate...when you get the promotion...when you get the next stage...then you can rest and be happy.
This is very true. But then we get the other camp who claims that folks who only do "x" are lazy, not driven, etc.
Rather than being satisfied and making the right choices within your income strata as you fall and are comfortable in.
Its a terribly tough thing, especially given the way that we are advertised to, told what we want, need, etc. It creates the drive for many, but a well paid serf is still a serf, even if they own their own job and it is worth some bucks.
The toughest call is where to draw the line between laziness and drive. I drive hard, but am trying to figure when to just do a phenominal job and not drive higher.
Missing out on events and milestones in family life is where I would draw the line. I work to live, not live to work. Smart spending will provide more peace of mind than overcompensating with more work any day.
Thanks for posting this OP, this is really making me think-
Yah, nothing puts stuff in perspective like being told you have cancer. Once I got over the horrors, I realized that even if I got cured, it is just a delaying action. Everybody dies sooner or later. That never occurred to me before. That and anti-depressants made me stop moping around and doing things , little things that I enjoy. Now ,every day has the promise of being a good day
I read a retrospective on BITOG or another forum a while ago, and have led my life by that philosophy since then - reaping more benefits and rewards than I could have fathomed at the time.
The important life lesson is: It doesn't matter what other people think.
The important life lesson is: It doesn't matter what other people think.
I clicked on the home button and read the list of 15 things to give up to me happy. One really stuck a note with me, forget the past. That was moving. Really liked and made sense to me
" the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present." This is so true for a lot of us. Good stuff, things for posting that link.
" the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present." This is so true for a lot of us. Good stuff, things for posting that link.
Hindsight is 20/20
There should be time for all things during ones life, but what you do (how you spend your time) when you are 20 need not be what you should do when you are 50.
I believe we should all have short term and long term goals. Now, the 'Goal' need not be rigid, but should be something you can 'aim' to achieve.
ie. In my 20's I made it a goal to eliminate my debit (mortgage) ASAP, My reward for this was to be, no longer working 40+ hours per week
(unless I wanted too, or I had set myself another short term goal)
The Key for me is Periodic assessment.
Ask yourself, Are you Happy!!!
if not, why not?
Then make changes.
There should be time for all things during ones life, but what you do (how you spend your time) when you are 20 need not be what you should do when you are 50.
I believe we should all have short term and long term goals. Now, the 'Goal' need not be rigid, but should be something you can 'aim' to achieve.
ie. In my 20's I made it a goal to eliminate my debit (mortgage) ASAP, My reward for this was to be, no longer working 40+ hours per week
(unless I wanted too, or I had set myself another short term goal)
The Key for me is Periodic assessment.
Ask yourself, Are you Happy!!!
if not, why not?
Then make changes.
Originally Posted By: JHZR2
The toughest call is where to draw the line between laziness and drive. I drive hard, but am trying to figure when to just do a phenominal job and not drive higher.
This may or may not be in the realm of what you are discussing, but I urge people to look at perfectionism as a disease. If you are even able to strive for perfectionism in some activity, it means that have an overabundance of time, you don't value your time or understand decreasing rewards, or you have a drought of opportunities.
Life is a maximization problem. I would much rather do an average job at many things, than a great job at a few. Other people may opt to maximize their life differently.
The toughest call is where to draw the line between laziness and drive. I drive hard, but am trying to figure when to just do a phenominal job and not drive higher.
This may or may not be in the realm of what you are discussing, but I urge people to look at perfectionism as a disease. If you are even able to strive for perfectionism in some activity, it means that have an overabundance of time, you don't value your time or understand decreasing rewards, or you have a drought of opportunities.
Life is a maximization problem. I would much rather do an average job at many things, than a great job at a few. Other people may opt to maximize their life differently.
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