The girl in your college class

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Hey all,

Hopefully those with good suggestions, can chime in. I'm on the second to last semester in college (oh thank GOD) and a girl i really like in my investigative journalism class told me to stop by the Starbucks that she works for. I missed her by oh an hour or less, now I left her a message to call me. Either A. Great idea or B. Not so good. If she does call what are great date ideas? Keep in mind I'm 31 ad she's roughly 26ish. Any really good ideas that aren't dinner and a movie? Thanks.
 
Given that USA as a location isn't particularly indicative, it could be freezing or it could be pleasant out.

If you're into journalism, do you both do any photography? Getting good light just as the sun goes down and capturing some neat images of nature, a skyline, etc would be interesting. Double slick if you can upload them on the go to a Walgreens, and then print them out in 8x10 and critique over dinner... Or something like that.
 
Yeah Location would be helpful. Central to northern Colorado. Just had a couple inches of snow. She is a news/editorial magazine major i have a similar but not exact journalism major.
 
Really depends where you are. I went to SIU in Carbondale, IL which is basically in Shawnee National Park. Because of this we took advantage of the good weather and would go hiking, fishing, or head to the apartment pool. We actually didn't do a lot of dinner and a movie date nights, usually one of us would cook dinner and watch a movie at home. Must have been the right way to go as we've been together a year and a half now.
 
If the chick is diggin' you there is not much you can do wrong, if she ain't there is not much you could do right. Just go with the flow and if she likes you, your in. Go to dinner and see what she is like.
 
Originally Posted By: 97prizm

Hey all,

Hopefully those with good suggestions, can chime in. I'm on the second to last semester in college (oh thank GOD) and a girl i really like in my investigative journalism class told me to stop by the Starbucks that she works for. I missed her by oh an hour or less, now I left her a message to call me. Either A. Great idea or B. Not so good. If she does call what are great date ideas? Keep in mind I'm 31 ad she's roughly 26ish. Any really good ideas that aren't dinner and a movie? Thanks.


I don't think it's generally a good idea to leave a message expecting her to call you. She might depending on how well you know her, but unless you have a solid friendship or relationship, generally women expect you to call until they answer or keep not answering and you take the hint. So I'd ignore the fact you left that message and the expectation that she call you back and try her back or just show up at her work again.

As for the date, I'd make it seem like you were doing something anyways, and sort of invite her along. You're both into investigative journalism, so maybe find something that interests you in the vein of maybe a tour group or museum related to something with politics, crime, espionage, or whatever happened in your town that interests you. You could also invite her to some sort of paranormal ghost tour or something like that, because women seem to love that sort of thing. If things go well, then suggest you both maybe grab a drink and maybe a bite to eat. There are of course also art museums and the like as well..
 
Meet for coffee and go for a walk together. You can focus on conversation that way. Photography idea could fit in..and u can use that as an excuse to take self pics of u both..u never know what will happen. If it doesnt work or she was just being friendly or u dont vibe together u can end the date and it wont be as awkward as dinner and a movie..good luck, hope it works out for u!!
 
Take her out for a walk down the motor oil aisle at WalMart. You'll find out if she's a keeper real fast.

Seriously, assess her interests, likes and dislikes and then align those with whatever is available to do or go to in your area. Keep it simple: no high adventure outings on your first date, unless you're both really into that. Nothing wrong with dinner and a movie if you pick a nice restaurant where you can have a conversation. Way back when I was single I had very successful first dates at a concert (she was really into David Sanborn & I scored tickets) and a play (that gal liked the arts). My first date with my wife was simply a long, unhurried dinner at a very unique Serbian restaurant.
 
Originally Posted By: Rolla07
Meet for coffee


Don't meet for coffee. She works at starbucks! Hot cocoa is a better idea from a different place, QT has good cocoa.

I would suggest cocoa and since it just snowed/your in CO to go photograph/sight-seeing animals in the woods. Bring a walking stick just in case for protection from an animal that might want to bite your legs for dinner.
 
Don't sit and wait for her to call you back. Pretend you didn't leave a note, because if she doesn't call you back you'll get up in your head and take it as a sign she doesn't like you. She does, or she wouldn't have asked you to stop by, so go back. As for date ideas, whats wrong with dinner? No better way to sit down, talk and get to know someone. Skip the movie, you can't talk to her.
 
Originally Posted By: RamFan
Really depends where you are. I went to SIU in Carbondale, IL which is basically in Shawnee National Park. Because of this we took advantage of the good weather and would go hiking, fishing, or head to the apartment pool. We actually didn't do a lot of dinner and a movie date nights, usually one of us would cook dinner and watch a movie at home. Must have been the right way to go as we've been together a year and a half now.


OT. I met a good bloke from SIU carbondale about 14 years ago. Was a swimmer.
 
Go back to the Bucks and catch up with her. Smart girl, wanting an acquaintance to come in to where she works, a public place, to find out what beverage you drink and maybe get a little face time with you.
 
America could surely use some good 'investigative journalists'.....It seems to have died in recent years...
 
Maybe I'm simple but why not just be straightforward? She has shown some interest in you - reciprocate. "I'd like to get to know you, would you like to go to dinner, get a snack, grab a hot coco, etc." And remember you are auditioning her for a part in your life. After all, if it doesn't work out with her you will be moving on and auditioning others. Might think of it as a sales call.

Be observant. New shoes, hair style, nail polish etc. are opportunities to compliment her on things she's into and are not threatening to her. It usually what her girlfriends talk about so its safe. BTW you like whatever she has!

Of course try a funny movie and dinner, maybe an afternoon snack, just something she is comfortable with. Get her talking about herself and you will learn a lot. Take a genuine interest in her life and share what you plan for your future. Believe me, she wants to know!

One other thing - perhaps most importantly, find out if she has a brother she is close to. In my experience women that grow up without a close brother/male figure typically don't understand men.

Good luck! Send news of your success!
 
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