Originally Posted By: NHHEMI
I am not going to quote any person in particular here as I am making a general comment on a modern day philosophy/attitude when it comes to kids that just disgusts me. Something was said in this thread that I have heard before that is a prime example of this modern day apathy parents have when it comes to their kids. When I hear this stuff it sets my teeth on edge. That would be to
"pick your battles" when it comes to your kids.
That is the biggest pile of horse dung I have ever heard. YOU are the parent and they are the kid. What you say goes. Period and end of story. If you choose not to stand firm you are in effect condoning poor and unacceptable behavior because you do not have the resolve and back bone to set guidelines and rules for your kids and enforce them. It is what is wrong with this country today. No one will simply say that is unacceptable and you will not do it. Too easy to disapprove but allow it anyway.
If you think your teenage daughter dressing like a prostitute is ok that is your decision and is a different conversation. However, when you say it isn't a battle you want to fight, to me, that says you don't approve but you don't want to get into a hassle about it. THAT is just so screwed up it isn't funny.
Not allowing your teenage daughter to dress like a hoochie momma IS a battle you should want to fight. There is only ONE reason to dress like the girls the OP talks of dress and that is to attract boys and be sexual. That is NOT acceptable for a teenager. It shouldn't be anyway.
Sorry to rant. I just lose my mind when I hear people talking about something not being a battle they want to fight with their kids. That is a cop out and it is just wrong. Be the adult you are and make them be the kids they are.
Nuff said.
Excellent post. I agree 100%. I completely understand how you feel. Unfortunately, many 'parents' today fail on nearly all levels....as society continues to go further down that dangerous path.