Well, as we all know, if you were to take your car to any mechanic or dealer to have the spark plugs replaced, they would let the car sit for a full three hours before pulling out the old plugs, just to make sure the head is nice and cool. So I think we should do the same thing. Yes, I'm being sarcastic.
I say cool to very warm is OK if you're careful. Just-turned-the-car-off-hot is probably not too smart. I always take the extension off of my ratchet, use a light to guide me to the hole, and then turn the spark plug counterclockwise a few times for a few clicks to make sure the plug is centered, and then carefully start threading it in. If I feel any resistance, I stop, back it out again, and start over. It's amazing what "resistance" feels like to your hand vs. when you're turning the end of a ratchet.
I say cool to very warm is OK if you're careful. Just-turned-the-car-off-hot is probably not too smart. I always take the extension off of my ratchet, use a light to guide me to the hole, and then turn the spark plug counterclockwise a few times for a few clicks to make sure the plug is centered, and then carefully start threading it in. If I feel any resistance, I stop, back it out again, and start over. It's amazing what "resistance" feels like to your hand vs. when you're turning the end of a ratchet.