In an AT, it is the number of the times that you put it into 'D' that wears the clutch. After you put into the D the first gear clucth set is engaged, during a wait in red light it in 1st gear, and this is handled by the torque converter, which is a hydraulic system.
On '72~'73 Chrysler users manuals it is adviced that if you won't back-up after starting put it into the N before starting so that the 'R' wouldn't be engaged unnecessarily.
However I do this on long reds if the engine is cold, for the engine, not the transmission. Again if the AC is on, engine runs cooler and AC works better because the rpms would be free to climb. After a long commute engine and trans could be cooled better in N. Well, I just do not do it on stop and go.
Now I started a habit. If I have time to warm up the engine I do it in N, so the transmission also warms up.