I just want to thank everyone for the replies. There was some very helpful info. Unfortunately "Life" happened shortly after I posted and I did not have a chance to follow up.
@Nukeman7 thank you for the pic of the relay location. I am sure I would have located it, but that came in clutch and saved me a bunch of time I would have spent in the rain trying to find it on the day I pulled it. In reply to your second post, the high pitch sound was very consistent regardless of whether the clutch was engaged or not. The comprssor was also starting to "clunk" a little when engaging, so as suggested, I am sure the compressor is tired.
As was mentioned, the defrost doesn't defog the windshield as well without the drying of the a/c, but it is much better than nothing and works just fine once it starts throwing heat. Brings me back to the days of driving my parents cars that did not even have a/c when I was younger. I find cracking open a window or two helps a lot when you have passengers contributing moisture inside the cabin.
I could technically afford to fix the a/c correctly, but on a 19 year old car with over 200k miles, I dont really want to put a ton of money into it, especially with my wife wanting me to "cull the fleet."
I was able to find a can of super tech refrigerant at Walmart without the stop leak. The plan will be to try adding it once the weather warms up a little. I will try to update this post with the results for what it may be worth.