I honestly think the 90-100C oil temp range (~190-212 degrees F) is common for a lot of hard-working engines. Some cars (Audi, perhaps a BMW) will get it up to ~240F and some cars get it up to over 300F when there is a problem. *highway airflow will make the tempterature a little bit less, unless something was happening in the engine to keep temps high. However, yes, highway airflow would make oil temp lessen. Stop-and-go and ambient heat taxes cooling system, and the cooling system also determines how much heat gets to the oil. The oil can get up into this range, especially on hot days. Its a complex interaction but it is valid.
20 and 30 weight motor oils may be optimal for this but if the engine likes to run hot, a 40 should be considered or even a 50. Its all relative.
20 and 30 weight oil can handle 90 and 100C engine temps just fine. Its the other engine factors that make you need to choose. That said, MOST engines id feel cofortable with a thick 0W-20.. a thin one if i knew my engine.