Forgot the keep you posted but it might help someone. Guess the cause? First shop did a poor job at balancing my wheels. Second shop did even worse which resulted in 20 grams of inbalance on one wheel, 10 grams on the other. Third shop, i had to stand next to the guy balancing my tires and had to insist to set the wheels to zero grams of inbalance after hearing him say that 10 grams is not much and is acceptable.
In the end is was all down to laziness. Now the car is smooth even at 200 km/h (on german roads).
And this is why people end up running down endless rabbit holes over something so simple. They're trusting the "experts" to do their job competently. Unfortunately, the experts have long retired.