Major life setbacks?

[andyd]

Yah, I had a close enough brush with cancer to appreciate just how blessed I am. I didnt find a Messiah, but I realized that there are people who love me. You fix what you can fix and move on. Worrying about stuff you cant fix is a waste of time and energy. Better to devote the energy to enjoying life, because it is the only one you have.

 

[wander2039]

Well I'm not dead or had cancer so no I haven't. Sure I've been kicked a few times. After you watch a love one slowly wither away at the ripe age of 27 life takes on new meanings.

 

[hattaresguy]

To me a setback is dieing, everything else you can figure out one way or another.

 

[TooManyWheels]

Miscellaneous downs in my career, mainly due to being on the bleeding edge of a field that was just emerging. Have spent the last two years determining that wife's steadily progressing disfunctional behavior over the course of thirty-plus years is almost certainly due to a personality disorder, which she refuses to be treated for, and which likely has a physiological root.

But as already said, there are always people who have it worse. Just reading this thread makes me feel fortunate, although I'll say I can relate to Donald's post.

 

[saberz]

To live is to fight.

No matter how bad it gets you can't give up. I've had a few set backs, financial woes from a year long unemployment hiatus in 2002-03. Chugged through it.

Going through a little financial strain now, but I think i've been handling my money all wrong in trying to pay down bills. That thread about new year advice was great.

Pay yourself first,
Everything else next.

So instead of me throwing money away to the CC, I'm going to chalk up money into savings, money in my wallet, and spread out the rest on paying my obligations.

That or just rob a bank :|

 

[ddrumman2004]

I had my now 13 year old son's, who has Asperger's Disorder, mother die on Sept 1 2001. Just two days after her mom died and a month and half before my dad died. My mom died 2 1/2 years later.

Major setback for me turning 50 in 2002 with a then 4 year old son who did not understand what was going on.

But life is great now.

 

[INTJ]

Originally Posted By: Donald
There is light at the end of the tunnel. You will never be asked to carry a cross larger than you can handle.

Drinking and drugging won't help any situation.

My wife most likely has borderline personality disorder. No gray area, she either loves you or hates you. I am on the hating end. She lives with her paramour and his son. Use to live in my house and I was paying all the bills. My psychologist says there is no rationale dealing with her and her first priority is to make life as hard as she can for me. I cannot seem to get rid of her via divorce. I now have a kick-a$$ lawyer and things are starting to move ahead.

I also got a puppy, she brings me great joy as do my daughters and granddaughters.


It's a miracle you or one can live through the BPD roller coaster ride, and stay psychologically intact. But you are making it, and glad to hear that.

 

[rpn453]

None that I haven't intentionally created.

"Just remember, the sweet is never as sweet without the sour, and I know the sour." - Brian Shelby, Vanilla Sky

 

[SteveSRT8]

Life is about the struggle. Took me 40 years to figure it out.

Everyone must face their challenges, or die trying.

Life is filled with stories of extraordinary feats from very ordinary people.

 

[Patman]

2009 and 2010 were very rough years for me! In January 2009 I lost my mom to cancer, then a month later I lost my job (had been working there 8 years, it was a great paying job and I thought it was very secure) It then took me 6 months to find another job. But those 6 months did allow me to get my head on straight after losing my mom, and I found the time off to be very therapeutic for me. But my hard times weren't over. In March 2010 I celebrated my ten year wedding anniversary and in April 2010 we won $6,649 in a contest, and we used that money to pay off debt and life really looked like it was getting better. But then in June 2010 my wife dropped a bomb on me and told me she was not happy and did not see a future for us. I was devastated at the time, but looking back on it, this really was for the best. Her and I simply weren't the right people for each other at all. We were basically just roomates, we had nothing in common and there just wasn't any real love there at all.

We separated in December 2010, and I started dating again in February 2011 and met a lot of great women, but didn't really have a strong connection with any of them until I met Lyndsey in November. We instantly hit it off, and after two months together now I know without a doubt that she is the one I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. We are perfect for each other, she is exactly what I've been searching for my entire life and she feels the same way about me. We just got back from a mini vacation in St Pete Beach, Florida and it was absolutely wonderful!

So I've gone from the most darkest period of my life to the brightest period in just a short time. If anyone on here thinks that their life is going through a rough patch right now, my advice to them is to just stay as positive as possible and know that things can turn around in an instant! They did for me!

 

[Quattro Pete]

Originally Posted By: Patman
If anyone on here thinks that their life is going through a rough patch right now, my advice to them is to just stay as positive as possible and know that things can turn around in an instant! They did for me!

That's good advice. The key is to keep on going to survive the rough patches so that you can eventually get to the good stuff. Sometimes it's easier said than done. Having family/friends on your side can be helpful to get through, but sometimes it can also be detrimental if they keep nagging or are very critical, so you've got to be careful. I've gone through several job losses myself, and I'm very thankful I had an understanding and caring girlfriend (now wife) on my side to help me get through it.