life was more fun when I was younger.

[jeepman3071]

I just turned 45 so I barely grew up before social media and the tech craze. In sooooo many ways it’s ruined life for the younger generations. Comparison is the thief of joy looking at social media. I tell my GFs daughters this everyday and they don’t get it cause they’re mostly miserable.

I work myself to the bone and most of my money just pays the bills but the few hobbies I have don’t cost hardly anything: fishing, hiking etc and those keep me happy enough. In our economy if you can stay healthy, fed, clothed, and a roof over your head it’s all gravy IMO. You do you and don’t compare your life to anyone else but your own and to me, that’s what makes for happiness.

It's a tool like anything else. How you use it determines if it helps or hurts you. I've certainly learned a lot about repairing things myself through Youtube and the internet that I wouldn't have otherwise, and have also met people through social media that I would not have either, both good and bad.

 

[Pablo]

Not true in my case. I have more joy of/from life than ever in my near 67 years. I'm like kid and my duties are (mostly) voluntary.

I did not have a grunt life depression eeyore blues bummerski low life crappoop lacko-zest until I was mid 40's. Lasted near 20 years. Well that sucked.

And work does suck and it will suck you in and kill you with a imperceptible sedentary sugar eating, couch denting slowness that will destroy your liver and kidneys and turn your spine into chalk dust, clog your arteries and blow your brain out. Go to a doc, he'll give you pills. You will continue to eat the same processed junk and there is no pill that will slide that out of your greasy body like a fat dude ina leisure suit on an Amoralled faux naugahide couch.

So hang in there. It's only up from here!

Seriously. Get more active, STOP eating all sugar and all processed foods, starting taking Vitamin D and get your D levels checked. I recommend drops over pils.

 

[Cujet]

I just turned 45 so I barely grew up before social media and the tech craze. In sooooo many ways it’s ruined life for the younger generations. Comparison is the thief of joy looking at social media. I tell my GFs daughters this everyday and they don’t get it cause they’re mostly miserable.

I work myself to the bone and most of my money just pays the bills but the few hobbies I have don’t cost hardly anything: fishing, hiking etc and those keep me happy enough. In our economy if you can stay healthy, fed, clothed, and a roof over your head it’s all gravy IMO. You do you and don’t compare your life to anyone else but your own and to me, that’s what makes for happiness.

Hahaha so many young kids take everything for granted and have zero clue why the light switch works! Or even how much effort it took to make it happen.

As for fun stuff to do, there is an endless list. My favorite things involve an engine of some sort. So none of that is free or even cheap anymore. It’s in my DNA. Hiking involves leg muscles or something! All kidding aside, I really enjoyed climbing as a younger guy. What a thrill! Swimming in the waves too!

 

[Dave Hess]

I just turned 45 so I barely grew up before social media and the tech craze. In sooooo many ways it’s ruined life for the younger generations. Comparison is the thief of joy looking at social media. I tell my GFs daughters this everyday and they don’t get it cause they’re mostly miserable.

I work myself to the bone and most of my money just pays the bills but the few hobbies I have don’t cost hardly anything: fishing, hiking etc and those keep me happy enough. In our economy if you can stay healthy, fed, clothed, and a roof over your head it’s all gravy IMO. You do you and don’t compare your life to anyone else but your own and to me, that’s what makes for happiness.

Great post.

Younger folks need to stay off social media and stop comparing themselves to other people they see on trash social media living very fake, phony lives making everything is sunshine and roses. Lots of misery and unhappy people trying to escape boring unfulfilled lives.

I live in a bubble and don’t pay attention to what acquaintances, friends or family are doing.

I’m not the type of person to put my personal business on trash social media….

 

[PandaBear]

Because money doesn't buy happiness.

Money can buy happiness if you know how to use it. You don't have to spend it on luxury goods.

Life was not really better back then. I grew up with a lot of neighbors working 7 days a week raising 4-5 children, not having enough saved for retirements, never took vacations, working from 9am to 9pm, etc. Many had health problems due to ergonomics injuries or look way beyond their ages due to stress.

Sure things were "cheaper" back then but you also make less. The only people I know who grew up with a very comfortable lifestyle back then were from upper middle class in a very unequal job market, where blue collar jobs get paid like 1/2 of white collar jobs. These days many white collar jobs get paid less than the blue collar jobs because how hard they are, but many only remember the "good ole days" because they could just get into college for any degree and there will be a high paying white collar jobs waiting for them. Now you really have to "earn" it.

 

[The motor guy]

Money can buy happiness if you know how to use it. You don't have to spend it on luxury goods.

Life was not really better back then. I grew up with a lot of neighbors working 7 days a week raising 4-5 children, not having enough saved for retirements, never took vacations, working from 9am to 9pm, etc. Many had health problems due to ergonomics injuries or look way beyond their ages due to stress.

Sure things were "cheaper" back then but you also make less. The only people I know who grew up with a very comfortable lifestyle back then were from upper middle class in a very unequal job market, where blue collar jobs get paid like 1/2 of white collar jobs. These days many white collar jobs get paid less than the blue collar jobs because how hard they are, but many only remember the "good ole days" because they could just get into college for any degree and there will be a high paying white collar jobs waiting for them. Now you really have to "earn" it.

An introvert like me wouldn't have anything if I didn't go out and buy something new and exciting to play with. You need to have a reason to roll out of bed in the morning. It's very hard for me to make new friends, guess I'm either not entertaining enough for them or they're just too busy with work and their own lives to hang out. Idk. Most people have a wife and kids at home and it seems like a lot of them aren't allowed to go out to the bar anymore to meet with the guys.

Guess it's a double edged sword. Better to be a little lonely than a prisoner in my own house.

 

[Dave Hess]

I make more money now than probably ever and i'm still broke at the end of the month once everything is paid for.

I felt the same way 30 years ago when I much younger.

Keep grinding, have a strict budget, contribute to retirement and watch your spending.

 

[Dave Hess]

An introvert like me wouldn't have anything if I didn't go out and buy something new and exciting to play with. You need to have a reason to roll out of bed in the morning. It's very hard for me to make new friends, guess I'm either not entertaining enough for them or they're just too busy with work and their own lives to hang out. Idk. Most people have a wife and kids at home and it seems like a lot of them aren't allowed to go out to the bar anymore to meet with the guys.

Guess it's a double edged sword. Better to be a little lonely than a prisoner in my own house.

Some people are in a dysfunctional, terrible, unhappy loveless marriage with kids and feel trapped.
They’ve in an Escape from Alcatraz type situation…..

There should be no rush to get married, take your time. I understand it’s very difficult to find quality women.

Luckily both my sons married ‘un crazy’ women with _____ morals and values.

 

[Pew]

An introvert like me wouldn't have anything if I didn't go out and buy something new and exciting to play with. You need to have a reason to roll out of bed in the morning. It's very hard for me to make new friends, guess I'm either not entertaining enough for them or they're just too busy with work and their own lives to hang out. Idk. Most people have a wife and kids at home and it seems like a lot of them aren't allowed to go out to the bar anymore to meet with the guys.

Guess it's a double edged sword. Better to be a little lonely than a prisoner in my own house.

Process of life. Look on the bright side, you get to do what you want to do, no telling anybody what you're doing or going.... You can just do it. No need to wake up to somebody yelling or screaming, or arguing.

 

[The motor guy]

Process of life. Look on the bright side, you get to do what you want to do, no telling anybody what you're doing or going.... You can just do it.

Yeah. Went over and talked to the new neighbors and the he was like this gives me an excuse to get out of the house for a bit and away from whatever the wife wants me to do. ive never understood this. You're supposed to be man of the house. You tell the wife where she stands not the other way around, but then again here I am not married

 

[Astro14]

I tell you, life sure was more fun when I was younger and more oblivious to most things. Now it's like I just go to work just so I can spend all my money on a tax of some sort. Property taxes, income taxes, electric bill, etc. I was more enthusiastic about going to work when I could buy fun things like a new atv or something like that.

You are an unmarried 35 year old who isn’t planning for the future but who is complaining about girls?

That sure explains the thread title… Maybe start planning for the future, acting more like an adult, and the women will find you more attractive.

Win/win/win

Life will be fun again.

 

[The motor guy]

You are an unmarried 35 year old who isn’t planning for the future but who is complaining about girls?

That sure explains the thread title… Maybe start planning for the future, acting more like an adult, and the women will find you more attractive.

Win/win/win

Life will be fun again.

Lmao most people my age don't even have their own house yet and I have two houses. I act like an adult just fine. Who says I didn't plan for the future? I'm just saying life isn't as fun as it was when I was younger. Nothing more, nothing less. Let's not twist things around it's not a pretzel.

 

[supton]

Late to the thread.

I find life a bit boring, but I'm also in the messy middle, so I have my excuses. House payments, retirement savings, kids in college. Unwilling to change jobs because it involves risk. Concerns about the future... the list goes on.

Thing is, as you get older, the responsibilities add on, while the heady rush of being young and reckless slowly ebbed away. It's like we literally change as we get older. Or at least some of us do.

I go no words of advice. I just go to work every day that I'm required to, and accept that the month of December will be spent recovering from burnout. Only 20 more years to retirement! some days it doesn't seem worth it...

 

[doitmyself]

I tell you, life sure was more fun when I was younger and more oblivious to most things. Now it's like I just go to work just so I can spend all my money on a tax of some sort. Property taxes, income taxes, electric bill, etc. I was more enthusiastic about going to work when I could buy fun things like a new atv or something like that.

Also late to the party. I, too, was more oblivious to most things in my 20's and 30's, even with us starting our family and home ownership in our early 20's. With age comes wisdom and knowledge of the entire world and universe. And as Supton states, we DO change as we get older. Some good and some bad. Then................ we die.

I'm relatively "young at heart" and state of mind is important attempting to keep life fun.

 

[02SE]

Lmao most people my age don't even have their own house yet and I have two houses. I act like an adult just fine. Who says I didn't plan for the future? I'm just saying life isn't as fun as it was when I was younger. Nothing more, nothing less. Let's not twist things around it's not a pretzel.

Well, when you put up a post stating that life isn't as much fun as when you were younger, to be read by a bunch of people with different backgrounds, and aspirations, you're going to get a variety of answers.

Nobody knows what your ideal life is but you.

My only advice would be to decide what that is, and work towards that end.

I will say that you've now got me looking at ATV's...

 

[The motor guy]

Well, when you put up a post stating that life isn't as much fun as when you were younger, to be read by a bunch of people with different backgrounds, and aspirations, you're going to get a variety of answers.

Nobody knows what your ideal life is but you.

My only advice would be to decide what that is, and work towards that end.

I will say that you've now got me looking at ATV's...

I just like to keep things on track so nothing gets misconstrued like it frequently does on here.

 

[SammyChevelleTypeS3]

Wife and I both surprise many folks when they find out we are knocking on 70 yrs old. LoL - they always pick us to be younger.
Only when I have the white beard (winter time) and the hat off and they see all the snow on my roof, then they get it.
Wife laughs at me all the time for this one. We will meet folks, and I always peg them as being older than we are. She always gets a big laugh & says. "Sorry Pal, they are 8, 9 or 10 years younger than we are!" Oh well, we both have the attitude of much younger than we are.

 

[Dave Hess]

I know someone married for the first time at 42 years old, some are late bloomers.

 

[The motor guy]

I know someone married for the first time at 42 years old, some are late bloomers.

Idk, I wouldn't necessarily call that a late bloomer. Doesn't mean you haven't been in relationships. I don't really see how getting married changes much except come tax time.

 

[awguy]

Didn't read all the posts. Sayings out there:

When I was young I had money but no time. Now older, have time but no money. Need to mix it up a bit.

Mum used to say don't get married till you're at least 30. Go see the world.

Never spend more than you have. If you have to put it on a credit card you probably can't afford it. Live within you're means.

When you stop looking is when she'll find you. (But don't be a hermit.) You have to put yourself out there or you won't be seen.