life was more fun when I was younger.

Pew said:
I've gotten better prospects when I wasn't looking vs when I did but being single has never bothered me. A good friend of mine always complains about not finding a 'good girl'. I always tell him to stop sounding like he's so desperate to find someone and just work on himself, enjoy life as it is, and everything else will fall into place. Guys have their host of problems too so really they're wondering if you're a good match and not like every other guy too.

As my cousin put it: you're going to be working for the next 30 years of your life anyways, might as well enjoy life while you're going through it.
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I agree although when I'm not looking I usually don't seize the opportunity when it's there. An example was a couple weeks back when I put the boat in the water to work on the trailer and I started random chit chat with a girl who was fishing. She had her dog in the car and I asked why she parked the car so far away. Turned out the dog doesn't like looking at too much water and prefers to see land on atleast one side lol. She even asked about my boat instead of the usual one sided forced conversation. Anyways, like I said I wasn't looking and was more concerned about fixing the trailer at the time, but I think we could have atleast traded numbers. Nope because I'm an idiot and didn't even bother to ask. These opportunities are so few and far between that it usually catches me off guard.
 
IndyIan said:
Of course, if your son is a jerk to women, that will show up too! ;)
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I don't know where that came from, but he is absolutely NOT one. In fact, he is probably too nice and respectful to them. He has uncommon gentleman like qualities for a 26 y.o. Thats probably a part of why they feel free to act out their bad behavior.
 
Quattro Pete said:
It'll be easier to get a girlfriend when you don't live with your parents.
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It certainly helps, but it isn't a complete deal breaker. Look at all the attractive women who date low lifes. If women like you enough they will make it work. Women don't usually care about the car you drive or how much money you have, they just want someone who makes them feel a certain way and has potential. Working on yourself (working out, gaining skills, having a job) are always a benefit. Start with those first and work on your confidence. It helps to show you are working towards something (saving for a house, apartment, etc) compared to the guys living in their parents' basement with no job playing video games.
 
The motor guy said:
I agree although when I'm not looking I usually don't seize the opportunity when it's there. An example was a couple weeks back when I put the boat in the water to work on the trailer and I started random chit chat with a girl who was fishing. She had her dog in the car and I asked why she parked the car so far away. Turned out the dog doesn't like looking at too much water and prefers to see land on atleast one side lol. She even asked about my boat instead of the usual one sided forced conversation. Anyways, like I said I wasn't looking and was more concerned about fixing the trailer at the time, but I think we could have atleast traded numbers. Nope because I'm an idiot and didn't even bother to ask. These opportunities are so few and far between that it usually catches me off guard.
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Yup, gotta ask for the number my man. It's easier than you think. You don't even have to be direct and say "what's your number?" I've had good luck with "you seem cool, you and me should chat over coffee sometime".


gfh77665 said:
I don't know where that came from, but he is absolutely NOT one. In fact, he is probably too nice and respectful to them. He has uncommon gentleman like qualities for a 26 y.o. Thats probably a part of why they feel free to act out their bad behavior.
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Yeah unfortunately you can't be too nice these days. Don't be a jerk, but if you are too nice it seems like weakness. Women like someone who doesn't agree with everything they say and can tease them. I've found if you can playfully tease women, you are already ahead of a lot of other guys. ;)
 
gfh77665 said:
Its sad that being nice and respectful are detrimental qualities for young people now. If he was a tatted up gangster with a prison record and a drug addiction he would probably be more popular. I am not joking.
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Well that isn't quite true.

The key is not being so agreeable. It's part of being confident. I'm too nice as well, but I don't let people walk all over me, and I'm used to that mindset because of my job and making decisions. You can be a nice guy, but also set boundaries with women and playfully tease them in a confident way. It's also a red flag to women because a lot of "nice" guys are really just "nice" because they want something, and will treat them different later. There is a difference between being a nice guy and being good guy. I strive to be the second.
 
gfh77665 said:
I don't know where that came from, but he is absolutely NOT one. In fact, he is probably too nice and respectful to them. He has uncommon gentleman like qualities for a 26 y.o. Thats probably a part of why they feel free to act out their bad behavior.
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Sorry, I didn't mean to imply he was, but it seems a lot of conservative young males have been influenced a bit by Andrew Tate and the like, kind of playing victim but also demanding their "superiority" be recognized and respected... That doesn't play well with anyone IMO.
Anyways its good these women show their true bad behavior early, so he doesn't waste time with them! Probably the biggest challenge for him is be authentic and keep open to meeting the right one, after dealing with so many duds....
 
The motor guy said:
I agree although when I'm not looking I usually don't seize the opportunity when it's there. An example was a couple weeks back when I put the boat in the water to work on the trailer and I started random chit chat with a girl who was fishing. She had her dog in the car and I asked why she parked the car so far away. Turned out the dog doesn't like looking at too much water and prefers to see land on atleast one side lol. She even asked about my boat instead of the usual one sided forced conversation. Anyways, like I said I wasn't looking and was more concerned about fixing the trailer at the time, but I think we could have atleast traded numbers. Nope because I'm an idiot and didn't even bother to ask. These opportunities are so few and far between that it usually catches me off guard.
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I've done the same quite a few times. Once I was at a friend's house drinking and a lady and I started play wrestling. Long story short, we come back from the bar and I'm trying to find my cigs in the car. She comes out to join me, bends over in the back seat and all I do is poke her and say "boop". She was mad for the rest of the night 😂. Now it's an inside joke with my friends and I.
 
gfh77665 said:
He doesn't.

Actually the problem is not my son. A lot of young females are just rejecting good men as a sport. Their attitudes out there are terrible.
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Yeah they don't put in any effort. One girl wanted to be my gf after like 2 dates and I'm like why? I've barely had any alone time with her because she brings her female friend along everywhere we go and you don't hardly know anything about it. Lets just go on a few more dates and keep things rolling here. Probably should have just said okay I'll be your gf, but idk it just seemed ridiculous in my eyes. These are the same girls that ghost you for no reason at all. They lose interest just as fast as they gain it.
 
SammyChevelleTypeS3 said:
I agree it sure was a lot more fun for us when younger but it has little to do with money.

I have several aquaintances that I know that are filthy rich. I dont mean a little either. So much we joke they likely do not even know how much they have. Now, most of them have worked for it. Some also have inherited BIG TIME from both husband and wife's families. Each one of those couples that the wife and I know are completely miserable. We never encounter them when either one has a smile going on
or something to be happy about. Some are nearly always fighting about the money.
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When you have something to lose, you worry about losing it. When money's in the bank, it's easy to look at it as a scorecard to compare against others. When someone's finally "made it" they can get paranoid about someone disturbing their "mojo" and taking it all away.

Look at pro athletes: One gets 20M a year and is happy but then they sign the next guy for 25M, so the first guy is hurt about it.
 
eljefino said:
When you have something to lose, you worry about losing it. When money's in the bank, it's easy to look at it as a scorecard to compare against others. When someone's finally "made it" they can get paranoid about someone disturbing their "mojo" and taking it all away.

Look at pro athletes: One gets 20M a year and is happy but then they sign the next guy for 25M, so the first guy is hurt about it.
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On the flip side as Leonardo Decaprio said: When ya got nothing, ya got nothing to lose
 
gfh77665 said:
The dating scene is a wreck right now. It seems like the young females have lost their minds, they just act crazy. My 26 y.o. son is the total package. Very attractive (people mention this all the time), degreed, highly intellegent, athletic, sucessful, and doing very well financially. Hes a high school history teacher, soccer coach, and has a sucessful income producing YouTube channel too. Problem is, he is 5'11" instead of 6'4", conservative instead of liberal, and he is white instead of black.

Crazy females accept a date, but then they don't show up and/or "ghost" him. Or they show up once and act crazy and stupid. I call it the "Taylor Swift" syndrome they have. They want to hate and disrespct solid young men. Way too much attitude and they are not interested in the concept of marriage. Its just sad right now. Don't give up though, the right one will come.
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Sounds like your son has his act together. Trouble is, many females today DO NOT. Most of them don't know what they want and listen to an agenda that is backward and will only cause them ruin. It's better for your son that he hasn't got hooked up with a nut job like that.
 
gfh77665 said:
Taylor Swift and others are literally wrecking the underpinnings of our society.
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I certainly am not even in the same hemisphere of the "TayTa" demograhic. I am glad. Even my grandaughter can not stand her anymore.
I think she now goes by "TayTay?" What is that? From what I can tell the artist formerly known as Taylor Swift (the country music or teeny bopper, ex boyfriend bashing love song singer) no longer exists. Seems like there is some new entity that has taken her over and turned her into some type of a burlesque dancer / stripper on stage? WHY? It is all too bad as she seems to be trying to rebel against something? Self respect? Common sense? Morality? I thought she was pretty famous and a big success without losing most of her clothes like she is doing now a days.
 
ripcord said:
At the very least it can help stave off a whole lot of anxiety. Not to mention groceries.
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When you're living paycheck to paycheck and not quite keeping up (me, 30 years ago), it's just about all you think about.

When you're in reasonable shape financially (me, for the past 20+ years), money doesn't seem very important.

Those who tell you not to worry about money are probably not in your situation.
 
gfh77665 said:
I don't know where that came from, but he is absolutely NOT one. In fact, he is probably too nice and respectful to them. He has uncommon gentleman like qualities for a 26 y.o. Thats probably a part of why they feel free to act out their bad behavior.
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I’m working with a 28 year old engineer that’s all you described - after they broke up and each “looked around” - he wound up back with his high school sweetheart - they seem very happy …
 
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