if one of us dies, how would we know?

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I see a great website opportunity here. Set up a website where you can register all the forums you're on. Give the user id and password to a loved one with the instructions that if you die, sign on and notify the website. The website in turn notifies the moderator at each of your forums that you have passed.
 
Originally Posted By: Burt
I thought that I have achieved immortality on BITOG. Don't try to burst my bubble.


I have a "digital will" I've crafted for my wife in the event of my untimely passing; containing everything from instructions on how to hook the laptop up to the HDTV on up to contact information and server login info pertaining to web site clients.
 
Originally Posted By: Nick R
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Personally who cares if anyone here knows if we croak or not?


Well, I would care if someone else passed, I'd want to know about it. Wouldn't you?

Would I care if somebody on this forum died? Yes. But certainly not on a personal level nor in any deep, emotional way that I would need to grieve. But the OP's question was...."If one of us dies, how would we know". The question was not if we care or not if somebody died on this board. From my own viewpoint....and directly addressing the question of "....how would WE know?" I stand by my original answer. The VERY last thing I would be thinking about on my deathbed would be how to let folks on BITOG know that I was about to croak. Nothing against anybody here, but a reality check and a little life prioritization may be in order if folks here are worried about something like this. Death is more of a personal and family matter.....not to be trifled about on a website from people we don't really know.
Just my humble opinion.
 
I miss some of the members that have quit posting. I sent out several e-mails but no one replied.

If a family member sends an e-mail to me concerning the death of a friend or spouse. I will make sure it is posted with a sticky. I would need their display name or the e-mail address when they joined. That way it will remain at the top for a while.

Helen
 
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Death is more of a personal and family matter.....not to be trifled about on a website from people we don't really know.


Agreed. When I die those who are important to me and my family will know. Beyond that, I really don't care. Like so many others I'll just stop posting, and none will know (or probably care) why.
 
Originally Posted By: Pop_Rivit
Originally Posted By: andrewg
Death is more of a personal and family matter.....not to be trifled about on a website from people we don't really know.


Agreed. When I die those who are important to me and my family will know. Beyond that, I really don't care. Like so many others I'll just stop posting, and none will know (or probably care) why.

and these responses are EXACTLY why I posted. the internet was supposed to bring people together, but instead we are more oblivious, more anonymous than ever.
many of us may SAY the internet forums are not important, or a small part of our lives, but the truth is we spend a lot of time on here!
I wonder what happens to people who I used to see everyday, but now they are gone.
like a lady who walks her dog every morning on your way to work and waves, but one day she isn't there.
or the old guy who is sitting on his porch around the corner.
or yes, the retired oil guy who posts helpful information.
yes, OUR lives go on, and we might 'not care', but we do interact with many people every day and are affected by them to some extent.
 
Facebook, myspace, and twitter have macabre "death policies". Basically they look into it when their spider bots see lots of RIP postings. The family can choose (creepy) to leave the site semi-up as a memorial.
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Originally Posted By: eljefino
Facebook, myspace, and twitter have macabre "death policies". Basically they look into it when their spider bots see lots of RIP postings. The family can choose (creepy) to leave the site semi-up as a memorial.
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my Mom had started a facebook page maybe a year before she passed away and my Dad has kept the page up. basically we just let it sit, no harm in leaving it there. it's not 'creepy' for us; we didn't make it a memorial, and there aren't any RIP posts.
 
Originally Posted By: eljefino
Facebook, myspace, and twitter have macabre "death policies". Basically they look into it when their spider bots see lots of RIP postings. The family can choose (creepy) to leave the site semi-up as a memorial.
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I don't think that any more macabre than archiving and displaying the letters of famous people throughout history...Jefferson's letters and library, for example, give us insight into the man's thoughts...his person...who he was...

While the internet is far more anonymous than those forms of correspondence...the same kind of glimpse into the person is there in the form of e-mail and blog postings...I, for one, would be interested in what my late father was thinking about during his daily life...his opinions...

I lost him in 1991, during my first combat deployment, so all I have are a few letters that I saved, and his notes on the Packard...
 
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Originally Posted By: mpvue
and these responses are EXACTLY why I posted. the internet was supposed to bring people together, but instead we are more oblivious, more anonymous than ever.
many of us may SAY the internet forums are not important, or a small part of our lives, but the truth is we spend a lot of time on here!
I wonder what happens to people who I used to see everyday, but now they are gone.
like a lady who walks her dog every morning on your way to work and waves, but one day she isn't there.
or the old guy who is sitting on his porch around the corner.
or yes, the retired oil guy who posts helpful information.
yes, OUR lives go on, and we might 'not care', but we do interact with many people every day and are affected by them to some extent.

I'm not so sure the internet was supposed to 'bring people together'. I would say it allows for massive amounts of information to be spread world wide instantly....some of it good....some of it not so good. It has opened the door to communication in a way never before available. Sometimes, if one is fortunate (or unfortunate), correspondence on a more personal level CAN occur. But without face to face contact (something us humans have utilized since day one), real and true relationships are rightly tough to have. Seeing a lady walk her dog daily as you say...involves more visually and perhaps 'stirs' the human mind and emotions a bit more than an internet message board perhaps. Being 'in person' still means something to us (thankfully) that the internet can't provide. Interacting with another person takes on MUCH more meaning when done with the person in your vicinity. Our perceptions and senses are making judgements and valuations that simply can't happen on the web.
I am a very realistic person (at least I try to be). Allowing myself to get too involved in chat rooms or on message boards makes me feel like I am wasting my life. I do enjoy it in the mornings with my coffee....or when something interesting peaks my interest. But I really don't take it much further than that....nor do I get concerned or 'care' if another member suddenly stops posting. I was on Facebook for quite some time recently....and then one day I decided to just delete my account. It was boring, irritating, intrusive (partly my own fault) and just a waste of time. My close friends and family know that I didn't die...I told them in person or gave them a phone call. But acquaintances? No. It's my business.
 
Won't say too much in this thread, but through chance, I got to have breakfast with Gary, lunch with XS650, and a lunch and tour of Intrepid with a co-mod of another board. (annoyed I couldn't catch up with mori, but owe him an "aid package")

To me, the relationships forged online are as real as any other...maybe categorised differently, but they are still real.
 
it is for sure most of my friends here would be missed on this site if they left this world. i think iam NOT one. Mr.Allen for sure is missed.
 
The internet forum provides a form of anonymity. The type that famous writers in olde times enjoyed under pen names.

Now did anybody know when a pen name died?
 
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