Helping my parents get a Tesla

There will be a learning curve, as @ecotourist posted. Beyond that, OTA updates can add or change functionality in a pretty big way. IMO, you need to be open minded or you will be frustrated. These cars are futuristic; if you want a traditional car, a Model 3 may not be the right car. But each is different, so who knows?
 
I really don't think a Tesla is for him. He would probably be super frustrated and regret the purchase. Maybe a Hybrid would do him better.
 
If you don't mind me asking how old are they?

No problem. Early 80s. Still able to drive and I don’t really worry too much about them driving. But these days my dad asks me to help out more often just because his endurance isn’t as good. But for a simple trip to the supermarket or even across a bridge to San Francisco or Marin, I think they can handle it.

It’s strange though. My dad really wants it because he hasn’t gotten a new car in a while, but yeah I’m thinking he’s going to get frustrated over little things that he never had to think about when driving before.
 
I had a bottle of Highland Park 12 that he went through whenever he visited. That and Lagavulin 16 (which is crazy expensive now). He didn't have a taste for Ardbeg 10 though, and that's my favorite.
You have excellent taste.
 
No problem. Early 80s. Still able to drive and I don’t really worry too much about them driving. But these days my dad asks me to help out more often just because his endurance isn’t as good. But for a simple trip to the supermarket or even across a bridge to San Francisco or Marin, I think they can handle it.

It’s strange though. My dad really wants it because he hasn’t gotten a new car in a while, but yeah I’m thinking he’s going to get frustrated over little things that he never had to think about when driving before.
Let him get what he wants, be helpful and supportive. My father got the new car bug when he was 89, still driving at the time and driving quite well in fact. He talked himself out of it. He'd say he had a good car and felt at his age a new car was a waste. He passed two years later. As long as he drives safely I'd say go for it. Teaching him the EV owner/driver tips will bring you even closer together. Good luck!!
 
Let him get what he wants, be helpful and supportive. My father got the new car bug when he was 89, still driving at the time and driving quite well in fact. He talked himself out of it. He'd say he had a good car and felt at his age a new car was a waste. He passed two years later. As long as he drives safely I'd say go for it. Teaching him the EV owner/driver tips will bring you even closer together. Good luck!!

I think it'll be a good learning experience for him. But I'm going to have to help him to prevent putting it in a condition where he's calling me up asking for help just to drive. If anything he has is out of whack, I'm the one he calls to get to fix it, and seeing the grandchild is an added benefit.

I don't know who watches Ted Lasso, but there was this one scene with the titular character is talking to his mother about how his oven in his apartment works. That's kind of what I end up doing.
Yeah, um, well, the one with the line under the nuclear power symbol, that's for making cookies and chicken. The, uh, three squiggly lines let you burn a frozen pizza. And the key symbol there, that makes the whole thing beep until [best friend and fellow coach] Beard comes over and fixes it for me.
My father loves his electronics. I don't think he can live without them. But he's like a lot of people who are very particular about how they're set up and then freak out because they don't know any other way to use them once the settings are changed. I mentioned he can't remember his passwords and can only access his email through his iPad Pro. Once he asked me to help him with his iPhone, and I saw all the apps waiting to update and then started it. I got yelled at because he was angry that he couldn't figure out how some of them worked any more because they made slight changes.

I mean - his last car doesn't even have a touch screen with a traditional radio. That might be the golden era for him where the technology got better but is more or less transparent to the user. Touch screens and having to go through menus is bound to drive him crazy. I'm going to have to figure out how to get him to avoid all that and just be able to drive.
 
I think it'll be a good learning experience for him. But I'm going to have to help him to prevent putting it in a condition where he's calling me up asking for help just to drive. If anything he has is out of whack, I'm the one he calls to get to fix it, and seeing the grandchild is an added benefit.

I don't know who watches Ted Lasso, but there was this one scene with the titular character is talking to his mother about how his oven in his apartment works. That's kind of what I end up doing.
Yeah, um, well, the one with the line under the nuclear power symbol, that's for making cookies and chicken. The, uh, three squiggly lines let you burn a frozen pizza. And the key symbol there, that makes the whole thing beep until [best friend and fellow coach] Beard comes over and fixes it for me.
My father loves his electronics. I don't think he can live without them. But he's like a lot of people who are very particular about how they're set up and then freak out because they don't know any other way to use them once the settings are changed. I mentioned he can't remember his passwords and can only access his email through his iPad Pro. Once he asked me to help him with his iPhone, and I saw all the apps waiting to update and then started it. I got yelled at because he was angry that he couldn't figure out how some of them worked any more because they made slight changes.

I mean - his last car doesn't even have a touch screen with a traditional radio. That might be the golden era for him where the technology got better but is more or less transparent to the user. Touch screens and having to go through menus is bound to drive him crazy. I'm going to have to figure out how to get him to avoid all that and just be able to drive.
You'll have your work cut out for you, but it sounds like you'll be able to handle it. My father had a flip phone, and Alexa. LOL He was not a fan of Tesla, the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, so I would not have had that tech worry. He would have been very happy with a new Subaru.
 
My parents aren't exactly tech savvy but they really want to get an EV
Here is a reasonable compromise. Have him look at a Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. It is a conventional SUV awd loaded with very new tech. It has a range of 40 miles on battery alone and an additional 240 miles on its 2 liter gas engine. It can be plugged into a/c at home to recharge its battery overnight. I believe it can also be quick charged at Tesla stations. Bigger than a Tesla3 with lots more storage capacity. Mitsubishi has a 10 year warranty. I have a Mitsubishi Outlander (not PHEV) and they are very reliable vehicles.

If your father only does daytime short trips he might never have to put gas in it. If he wants to take a road trip go ahead and treat it like a normal ICE SUV. The PHEV also may qualify for the tax break for EVs.

Win Win


1686879520631.webp

courtesy Automotive News
 
Is it possible to rent a Tesla for a few days to see if he can adjust to the new tech? The single pedal driving for example might be a problem as he is so used to regular throttles.
 
Here is a reasonable compromise. Have him look at a Mitsubishi Outlander PHEV. It is a conventional SUV awd loaded with very new tech. It has a range of 40 miles on battery alone and an additional 240 miles on its 2 liter gas engine. It can be plugged into a/c at home to recharge its battery overnight. I believe it can also be quick charged at Tesla stations. Bigger than a Tesla3 with lots more storage capacity. Mitsubishi has a 10 year warranty. I have a Mitsubishi Outlander (not PHEV) and they are very reliable vehicles.

If your father only does daytime short trips he might never have to put gas in it. If he wants to take a road trip go ahead and treat it like a normal ICE SUV. The PHEV also may qualify for the tax break for EVs.

Win Win


View attachment 161471
courtesy Automotive News

My parents are already getting the Model 3. No way will I be able to talk them out of it at this point. But the bright side is they'll probably let me use it a lot and will likely give it to me at the point where they're no longer comfortable driving.
 
Is it possible to rent a Tesla for a few days to see if he can adjust to the new tech? The single pedal driving for example might be a problem as he is so used to regular throttles.

Not much different than Autopia at Disneyland. I don't think adjusting to the pedal function is going to be as much of a challenge as dealing all the settings and charging it on the road.
 
My parents are already getting the Model 3. No way will I be able to talk them out of it at this point. But the bright side is they'll probably let me use it a lot and will likely give it to me at the point where they're no longer comfortable driving.
Are you encouraging this purchase so that you can have a new car in a few years? Because I see that your personal fleet is aging. If so, that is real classy of you.

Edit: just being honest - your dad is not likely to adjust well to such a drastic change in technology. Especially at his age. This is likely to be a very frustrating experience to him and the only beneficiary is you.
 
Last edited:
Tesla are for enthusiasts who want all the gadgets and gizmos. Not for basic transportation. The touchscreen controls would drive me nuts.
I was going to say, what’s the motivating factor in this scenario. When I was a child I liked to configure cars for my dad. My motivating factor was I wanted to live vicariously through him since I could not drive yet (age 12 or so).
 
Oh, so you’re encouraging this purchase so that you can have a new car in a few years? That’s real classy of you.

Edit: just being honest - your dad is not likely to adjust well to such a drastic change in technology. Especially at his age. This is likely to be a very frustrating experience to him. The only beneficiary is you.

When I look at the situation, he was totally going to do it anyways, but he was mostly worried about how long it would take for delivery. I'd test driven a Model 3 before, and at least for me the adjustment took about 5 minutes. He's going to want me to help guide him, and as someone said it could be a good bonding experience as long he doesn't get too frustrated.

As for me - I don't really want a Model 3. The car I really want now is a GR Corolla while my knees can still work a clutch.

The really odd thing is that we live in an area that's devoid of any places to check out a Tesla. It's San Francisco, Corte Madera (and the bridge toll), Vallejo (also bridge toll), or Walnut Creek. I have no idea why there isn't one around here. Tesla has a service center in Berkeley, and originally my dad thought he'd be able to go there to look at one.
 
It will take some getting used to but I think it should be ok, old people are like that when they learn new things. This is also the reason why some cars still have analog clocks...
 
When I was a child I liked to configure cars for my dad
Parents can be real quirky in their car buying habits. When I was in h.s. and had a driver's license but no car, I desperately wanted an MGB even worse than a prom date with the homecoming queen. My father sensing my feverish adolescent angst said he was going to buy himself a two seat English convertible. I was euphoric. A Triumph for sure, maybe an MGB or even a Jag. Well he was a man of his word, he drove home in a Nash Metro convertible, two tone of course, white wall bias ply tires. My balloon burst. I did drive it frequently and flogged it dearly but that Metro was indefatigable, never flinched at even the most excessive of my automotive insults.

Never did get an MGB or a prom date with the homecoming queen.

1686882589591.png

courtesy Pinterest
 
Is it possible to rent a Tesla for a few days to see if he can adjust to the new tech? The single pedal driving for example might be a problem as he is so used to regular throttles.
If he's driven vehicles with manual transmissions the regenerative braking won't be much of an issue. It feels very natural to me. It's like driving a manual transmission in a low gear; when you lift off you have engine braking. I really like one pedal driving.

If he hates it, I understand it can be turned off, though that would defeat one of the better features of an EV. They supposedly often do this with rental Teslas.
 
Back
Top Bottom