Heart Surgery Scar Staring

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OP : I don't have scars like that but my nephew does and I do notice the self awareness of the scars. Sorry I can't be more helpful, just want to be supportive of you.
 
D.P.R. said:
OP : I don't have scars like that but my nephew does and I do notice the self awareness of the scars. Sorry I can't be more helpful, just want to be supportive of you.
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Thank you kindly DPR
No looks yesterday... it's no bother but interesting all the same.
Actually I don't notice others heart surgery scars..

I think I got over cut but that's nothing in the scheme of things.
 
Zee09 said:
Thank you kindly DPR
No looks yesterday... it's no bother but interesting all the same.
Actually I don't notice others heart surgery scars..

I think I got over cut but that's nothing in the scheme of things.
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Fight back by staring at the mens birdsnest's AKA hat-hair/toupees lol.
When you're talking to them, look them in the eyes like normal, then glance up at their "hairline" and focus on it for 2-3 seconds.
Funny how the coversation goes after that 🤭
I find it insulting that they think they're fooling anyone:giggle:
 
Not exactly the same, but I have a friend whose 16-year-old daughter has complete alopecia. She has no hair at all and wears a hat or some type of head covering 100% of the time, but it is still very obvious that she has no hair. I've known her since kindergarten and have been on vacation with her and her family many, many times.

People stare at her, and many make little to no effort to hide it. I find myself staring back at the people who are staring at her, wondering what is wrong with people, because she KNOWS they're staring at her.

People also make all kinds of assumptions about her, including that she has cancer. Complete strangers will offer unsolicited prayers, words of encouragement, sympathy, and other comments without knowing anything about her or why she doesn't have hair. People have even paid for her dinner when we're out, again without knowing anything about her situation.

I know most of these people are well-meaning, and their intentions are probably good. But people can be weird when they see someone who looks different, and many just can't seem to mind their own business. Sometimes the kindest and most respectful thing you can do is simply treat someone normally.
 
PWMDMD said:
Not exactly the same, but I have a friend whose 16-year-old daughter has complete alopecia. She has no hair at all and wears a hat or some type of head covering 100% of the time, but it is still very obvious that she has no hair. I've known her since kindergarten and have been on vacation with her and her family many, many times.

People stare at her, and many make little to no effort to hide it. I find myself staring back at the people who are staring at her, wondering what is wrong with people, because she KNOWS they're staring at her.

People also make all kinds of assumptions about her, including that she has cancer. Complete strangers will offer unsolicited prayers, words of encouragement, sympathy, and other comments without knowing anything about her or why she doesn't have hair. People have even paid for her dinner when we're out, again without knowing anything about her situation.

I know most of these people are well-meaning, and their intentions are probably good. But people can be weird when they see someone who looks different, and many just can't seem to mind their own business. Sometimes the kindest and most respectful thing you can do is simply treat someone normally.
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My mother had it too at an early age and for a young girl that's horrible.
Very sad affair 😞
 
Zee09 said:
My mother had it too at an early age and for a young girl that's horrible.
Very sad affair 😞
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Off-topic, so I'll keep it short, but I'm actually very optimistic for her. She's bright, funny, very athletic, has a ton of friends, and is starting to get plenty of attention from the boys.

I only mention that last part because one of her mom's biggest fears has always been that her alopecia might hold her back from having the same experiences as other girls her age. So far, it doesn't seem to be slowing her down one bit.
 
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