JHZR2
Staff member
What may set them apart in the future is the family commitment compromise. If you look at women and men with no kids into the 40s you may find them with similar income, but if you look at men with housewives they may be higher paid than men with working wives and kids, and women in similar situations.
Of course. And?????
At some point there is a practical reality. I can’t nurse my kids. My wife can. Nothing will ever change that. No amount of compelling by the government, no fairness differential, no politician saying what is fair, no nothing.
And you know what else? My wife staying home, and losing years of seniority and pay increases, for three kids, was worth more than gold.
And you know what is a crime? 1) women who want to keep up with the joneses and go back to work and push their kids into daycare. 2) men that enable this. I know that’s harsh language…. Hear me out.
I get it that some women will push career over kids entirely. That’s their choice. And I respect them greatly. I get it also that some women can’t take off that long without losing their job. And that’s a crime too, IMO. Protecting kids (women, but that’s probably offensive, and it really is in the kids best interest) to let women stay at home and spend more time with their kids should be supported at all costs, IMO. It is a precious time, and so critical. But I’m sorry… you don’t yet years of seniority, and raises, magically, when you were off. My wife didn’t. For three kids. And it was a conscious decision that she (we) made.
I work with some incredible women professionally. And I have maximum respect. And they have and earned every bit of their success by being smart and aggressive and getting things done in a smart way. But for my wife and I, we have already lost hundreds of thousands of dollars because of “family commitment”. And we would do it exactly the same next time. So I don’t buy the bs that family commitment is an excuse in terms of fairness. Your #1 job is your kids…. And some aspects especially early on, only a woman can do. That’s not sexist, that’s biology. And if she doesn’t work, she may fall behind. And there’s no shame in it. But there should be shame in crying foul over making the right decision for your kids. And it is the right decision.
You don’t increase seniority because you’re off? Sorry. You can’t increase pay because your job is based upon years instead of merit? Sorry. Oh, you stayed home for many years to raise kids? That is absolutely noble merit, you sacrificed, and you should be praised. But some P taking point about how it’s unfair to some woke imbecile? No thanks.
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