Do teenage boys still do chores around the house??

Whenever this subject comes up in conversation, I go immediately to my nephew's life. He's 30 now. and while at his heart he's a good man, he is so spoiled and entitled that I find it hard to resist slapping the crap out of him sometimes. His parents and his grandparents gave him everything conceivable that an upper-middle-class family can give an only child. Clothes and shoes that would make an Italian runway jealous, a car at 16, another car at 18, and a full-ride master's degree. Never was he required to lift a finger to help on the family farm, because he learned very quickly that if he screws stuff up, he won't be asked to do it again. Was never asked to get a job during this period of his life to help support his partying lifestyle, and his apartment, during college, because they wanted to make sure he concentrated fully on his education. As everything seems to have come very easy for him, he scored a good job right out of college, and recently bought a house. But the entitled attitude continues. His grandmother runs the road back and forth to his house to take care of his dog, to do his household chores, and to take care of every little problem that comes up in baby's life. And he EXPECTS this. It's infuriating to watch, and unfortunately I think this is how a majority of society is raising their kids. Not much you can say about it other than thank them for raising entitled a-holes for society to deal with. This is the situation that gave Millennials, and their descendants, their reputation.
 
Every time I see my generation complain about todays kids is what we (1960s,70s,80s) parents allowed them to be.
My generation doesn't "make" these kids do things we were made to do and certainly not the things our grandparents made my parents do.
 
I have 3 kids (9 girl, 13 boy, 15 boy) no mom. We all do chores! My kids love sports and play elite baseball and basketball. Rules are elite grades for elite sports.

In the package is family, God, school, sports. I'm truly proud...my kids have done well and my 15 is more mature than I was by a lot!!! We are at Diamond Nation NJ for game 1 of a tournament as I write.
 
Nah man I’m lazy and now that I work over 40 hours a week I feel dead all the time so nothing gets done by me anymore. Beforehand yes, now no. Even on the weekends I feel so tired that I barely can function anymore. Honestly I don’t try to be lazy just being short on people brings me a nice paycheck but that’s it.
 
The "chores" have changed since back in the days. I don't mow lawns all the time or keep the house sparkly clean now. What I do notice is many parents if responsible would take kids out for classes or activities, helping them in "development" or pad their college applications. Many would rather overload their kids with school works and tutoring than wasting time mowing lawns.

Most of my time involves driving kids between classes and lessons, tiger parents start early.

Inside the house who knows, it is them and their kids / parents so I'd not worry about what is going on. I do incentivize for helping out sometimes and punish them for leaving a mess. In the extreme I would return toys I bought that were not yet open back to the store. And they do learn that sometimes when we clean up their stuff some of them got accidentally thrown away into the trash can, and they have to dumpster dive and clean them with soap and water.
 
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Originally Posted By: madRiver
I disagree a bit on with above on paying/helping for education beyond high school in modern world. Responsible parents help any way they can.

You raise adults not kids.
This means Independent of you.
Not enabling them, you would be surprised how different money gets spent when you are responsible for it's income.
My Dad used to always say, I am not going to live forever so don't depend on me.
Too many parents want to be their kids friends and less like their employer and prepping them for the Real World. Soft parenting does not work.
It "depends". Doing chores for money is very different than doing chores because you want to help out and be part of a family. That's how my parents raised me and I do help out (although my mom always want to do everything for me even if I tell her not to) and now as a head of family I do everything to help when everyone else is busy or needed to be done.

Wife's dad insist everyone wash their own dishes after meal so now she just wash her own but nobody else's. I am not sure if that is good parenting as being "responsible" but whatever happened already happened.

Regarding to college cost, it is an investment and I would help pay for my kids so they have a head start against kids whose parents do not believe in college, or do not want to pay for it and let them struggle later on in life, or their kids got scared into not taking degree that would have long term benefit (i.e. go to a vocational school instead of a 4 year college with engineering degree) because they got no support and have to take a lower risk path. To me if your kids have to be scared into being responsible by not paying for their colleges it is already too late and they are already in a disadvantage starting point. I think I can do better than that. My kids would combine allowance and see what toy is worth or not worth buying, whether they have room for it and whether they would enjoy it for a long time before deciding to buy them or not. I think they are already learned and made decision based on this pretty well.
 
Originally Posted By: aquariuscsm
Originally Posted By: ChevyBadger
Originally Posted By: aquariuscsm
When I was a kid it was literally an honor to be able to help my dad mow the yard,etc. We loved it when we'd be pushing the mower with our shirts off showing how strong and tough we were because we were doing a "man's" chore and the neighborhood girls would walk or ride by. Now THAT was a badge of honor!
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Yep,being a kid in the 70s rocked!
Lol I did the same, I had a neighbor girl I would show off for. This was the 90s though.


Ahh the good old days!!
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Good times ineed
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For me, it was during our almost daily summer kid gatherings to play soccer when the shirt came off, as the girls watched on the side lines.

But with the obesity so rampant in children nowadays, there is no sports and the shirts stay on. Plus, I bet some overprotective parents would probably complain that it makes their obese kid feel bad about themselves.
UV protection too. We only buy long sleeve rash guard / swimwear for kids.
 
Originally Posted By: madRiver
All you folks love the hard work instilled however let's ask a realistic question. How successful are you career wise because parents made you do chores. I am guessing it helps but curious.

I will be honest I grew up with parents who gave us really too much and no chores except dinner dishes and lawn mowing. My sister is head of nursing at hospital, I am lead architect at tech company and brother VP of risk compliance at a financial company. We never paid for college (parents did) and all are self sufficient. I am not saying doing chores or paying your own way is bad just not sure it is a recipie for success.

My parents pressed us to study hard.
To be realistic, if you believe in the statistics, at least in the US most studies predicts future "success" not by IQ or test score but by the wealth of parents. There were marshmallow test done that predicts kids success based on how much they can hold out for short term gain vs long term, and then psychologist end up finding out they are just testing for parents' wealth (wealthy parents have kids who are less "starved" for reward, or wealthy parents are less desperate financially and can take long term planning instead of payday loan for falling behind rents).

One thing I noticed that are different between my rich and poor roommates, is that the rich ones tend to have less "stress" on daily need and wants, that if they really want something they can use money to "get it over with" and then back to their focus. The lower income ones tend to have part time jobs that, while back in the days might be fun, now I realize is really distracting them from their school or professional development, delaying them graduation, lower grades, etc. Of course they both have lazy bums and real hard workers but the distraction and extra amount of work to be done is real between those who can afford to focus vs those who have to multi-task and postpone important to get things done.

One thing I know for sure, the rich kids are not always lazy and the poor kids who do chores at home are not always discipline in spending or at school. Believing rich = lazy and poor = hard working is like believing in fairy tales.
 
This is the situation that gave Millennials, and their descendants, their reputation.
I hate my generation, they are all very thin skinned!
Ungrateful, "i be groown!" attitudes,
just because you smoke like a chimmney, party day and night, and feeling entitled does not make you "groownnn"
there is no such thing as being "grooown"
 
Every family is different. Some kids have no interest in doing yard work or their dad might be finicky and want to do it himself "the right way". Maybe they have landscapers.

I clean up my front yard once every 6 months, if that. It's gravel. I've never washed the outside of the windows on my house. They look fine to me? Cars are pretty maintenance free these days. No fiddling necessary.
I had no interest in doing yard work as a kid and that sure didn’t matter one bit. Not at all. I didn’t have any interest in any chores. Again that didn’t matter. And it shouldn’t now either.
 
It was never easy to get kids to do chores; they simply would rather not. But with the right upbringing it can be done. If your kids won't, and I hate to say this, but it's the parent's fault. You are not your son or daughter's "buddy", you are their parent. Not the same thing.

Beating them won't change anything, but consequences will. Too many parents today just cave and no-one in the family experiences consequences.

Just like "back in the day" there are some teens who need to be constantly hounded to do even simple chores like taking out the garbage. But it's the parent's job to constantly hound them if necessary.

It's important that your teen learns to pitch in and they won't learn that if there are no chores. You do your children a dis-service if you let them turn 20 without that important life lesson.
I beg to differ on beating won’t do anything. It sure worked for me.
 
Im 54 now and at age 7 I distinctly remember 2 things happening.

I started doing all the yard work, washing cars, vacuuming and doing my own laundry.
Chopping wood, sweep the garage once a week, shovel/ blow snow.
I had to mow the widow on the blocks lawn, and clear her driveway of snow for "free." (well I couldn't charge her in any case)
Trash was always a daily chore.
I got 20 bucks a week for this, but every time I complained I got dinked a dollar.

I remember asking my mom why I had to do all this and the answer was "thats why I had a son!"

That summer vacation I was at my grandparents farm peacefully dozing one morning and grandpa waltzed in around 630 and opened all the windows and lights and announced it was time to get up, and I wouldn't be allowed to " sleep the whole day away"
I can vividly remember thinking "I'm a 7 year old kid what am I going to do anyway"?
 
Most of my time involves driving kids between classes and lessons, tiger parents start early.
I learn something new here every day. I had to look up "tiger parenting". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tiger_parenting

"Tiger parents perceive a narrow definition of success that is rooted solely in a high level of academic and intellectual achievement. As academic success is often a source of pride for families and within Chinese and East Asian society at large, tiger parents typically view "success" as graduating from a top university such as Harvard, or other Ivy League institutions as the ultimate marker of prestige, granting high socioeconomic status, promising marriage prospects, and a highly respectable lucrative white collar career path such as becoming a high-end neurosurgeon for Mayo Clinic, a high-powered lawyer at a top law Wall Street law firm, a software engineer in Silicon Valley, a management consultant for Boston Consulting Group, or as an investment banker working for Goldman Sachs.[3"

At age 65, all I can say is that I have seen many types of parenting that has resulted in many different results. Kids raised "correctly" that bomb in life and kids raised "wrong" that become hugely successful, however one defines it.
 
I learn something new here every day. I had to look up "tiger parenting". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tiger_parenting

"Tiger parents perceive a narrow definition of success that is rooted solely in a high level of academic and intellectual achievement. As academic success is often a source of pride for families and within Chinese and East Asian society at large, tiger parents typically view "success" as graduating from a top university such as Harvard, or other Ivy League institutions as the ultimate marker of prestige, granting high socioeconomic status, promising marriage prospects, and a highly respectable lucrative white collar career path such as becoming a high-end neurosurgeon for Mayo Clinic, a high-powered lawyer at a top law Wall Street law firm, a software engineer in Silicon Valley, a management consultant for Boston Consulting Group, or as an investment banker working for Goldman Sachs.[3"

At age 65, all I can say is that I have seen many types of parenting that has resulted in many different results. Kids raised "correctly" that bomb in life and kids raised "wrong" that become hugely successful, however one defines it.
You can only do so much, and I am well aware of that, and try to focus on developing their capability instead of trying to force them to excel in test or result as I do believe pushing too much will backfire. There's always some uncertainty in life but it is always good to have a good start. (My "tiger parenting" was just a sarcastic joke, I'm probably a lazy parent).
 
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