I can't tell when my 35d regens. Excessive idling, SOME fuel additives, poor quality diesel fuel, and the wrong engine oil can cause a DPF to fail. Watch what you use and watch how you operate it and I doubt you'll have any more issues with a diesel DPF than you will with a catalytic converter on a gas engine.
I'm certainly NOT directing this statement towards you but MOST times people that have issues with DPF's are guilty of the above or when talking about diesel-powered pick-ups, have a programmer/performance chip on board.
Are you looking for a diesel pax car, light duty tow-capable, or medium/heavy duty diesel?