It all depends on how hard that shift is. Most trannies shift way too slowly. A mild increase in the so-called "harshness" will do much to extend the life of any tranny. And, most cars don't have enough power when stock to stress the components in it. There is a big difference between a non-felt seamless shift, a "crisp shift", and a "harsh shift".
Most trannies are overengineered for smoothness(timed slippage) and underengineered for longevity(inadequate sump capacity, poor lubrication channels, and pathetic OEM cooling). The aftermarket seems to have most transmissions covered with simple VB mods that improve longevity and shift crispness.
Concerning other component failure, I'd rather replace a U-joint than a tranny any day. Too bad that this is difficult in some vehicles. Maybe a simple grease fitting added to some of those "wear" components will increase its life. Oh, who am I kidding, I haven't seen grease fittings on too many new cars or even drainplugs on sumped devices. All these wannabe "lifetime" fluids are great for someone who trades their car in every couple of years.
I also didn't see any problems associated with B&M ATF. If it truly is a race transmission, it will be serviced, filtered, cooled, maintained, and built well enough not to "shred itself". Sounds like someone was use the B&M fluid as a bandaid for a poorly assembled/maintained tranny.
Bummer, $2.75 for a quart of DexronVI, I guess it isn't a full synthetic. Thats enough of a reason for me not to even want to use it. I'll stick with Redline/Mobil1/Amsoil ATFs.