Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
I'm 26 and it seems harder and harder to not find a girl who hasn't gotten pregnant.
That just means that you're not quick enough in finding them.
Some other guy got there first, had his fun, and went about his life already.
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It just seems like a nightmare and I'm not really at the stage to think about kids yet. I'm thinking in 10 years I'll think about it.
Good for you to know what you do and don't want in a relationship.
Lots of guys, probably like you, have similar expectations, but they wind up making the kids, and then leave the lady on the hook because they don't want to date a woman who has kids, either.
I've had a few experiences with women who had kids.
The experiences have all been completely different from each other, and I can't say that they had any similarities.
Pretty much, some women are train wrecks, just in general. Add in kids, and their level of instability gets cranked up a notch or three.
Other women are completely different, and their kids are just another aspect of their great personality, and it's rewarding to experience their whole life.
The very first thing you need to figure out about yourself, and the lady with kids is this:
Do you want to have a long term relationship? Does she?
If the two of you don't match up in that regards, move on.
Next, do you want to have kids in the future? Does she want to have MORE kids?
Again, if the two of you don't match up in that regards, move on.
Finally, watch out for the type of women that are looking to have you finance their lives, and their children's future. They were screwed over, and stuck with the kids by some other guy, and they will be more than willing to use you for your wallet. These women are not good to deal with, and have chips on their shoulders.
Blaze responded to this thread with a woman of that type, who wants to date older men because they won't spend $60k on the vehicle of their choice. That's simply because she wants him to spend that same $700 per month on her and her kids instead.
At the end of it all, I fell in love with one of the women I dated who had a kid, and we've been together for 9+ years, and were married 2+ years ago. The daughter is now 24 years old, and I never had to raise her, but I've helped out here and there with advise, auto repairs, etc.
My life is better for it.
BC.