Yup. I guess it's a difficult thing to express and explain and for someone to grasp since our eyes are literally the windows to the world. I can see why people jerryrig LEDs and HIDs into halogen headlights since the floodlight in front of the car gives the impression of much better lighting lol
You still haven't explained how the blinding OEM lights are actually good and well designed implementations. For some reason you're getting hung up on the aftermarket.
Or is your answer "don't trust your eyes"?