BITOG wisdom/sage advice.

[Astro14]

@Cujet - if you find yourself in a situation where the rules have changed, I think you need to put on the Clash, and ask yourself the question:

“should I stay or should I go?”

You’ve been here 22 years, so, I’m certain that you’ve seen some rule changes, but you’ve always been able to follow them.

For this, I thank you.

 

[Cujet]

@Cujet - if you find yourself in a situation where the rules have changed, I think you need to put on the Clash, and ask yourself the question:

“should I stay or should I go?”

You’ve been here 22 years, so, I’m certain that you’ve seen some rule changes, but you’ve always been able to follow them.

For this, I thank you.

Thanks but I aim to misbehave... Just kidding, that's not my way.

I left out the part about the oil forum in my post above and was thinking about the larger picture of life itself. A wide range of subjects can fit into this category. One side gets to set the rules. “should I stay or should I go?” certainly can apply when things change for the worse.

An HOA comes to mind, with ever tightening rules. Move in with one set of expectations. Move out with multiple fines and violations for a piece of firewood, a bird feeder and a chair on the patio.

 

[samven]

A smart man learns from his mistakes, A wise man learns from others mistakes.

 

[shortyb]

And to go It seems I’m never going to find my perfect girl but I hope it comes one day. Dating sites are the only thing I can think of because I don’t do things to really meet women and I’m trying so hard in my life to meet them and I just am ready to give up especially after the scam and just overall bad luck on those sites.

Here is some sage for ya my son, free of charge: Quit trying so hard, and for G's sake, stay off of the internet looking for the "perfect girl". Chances of that happening are pretty slim. When you least expect it, she will appear. Just be patient and put yourself in places where good women are, ie; social gatherings that you circulate in, the movies, church, a produce aisle in a grocery store, a park etc. I met my "perfect girl" at a cop party. Never expected it at 36 and still single, but 25 years later, life is good.

I've alway said that dating sites are for desperate crazy people to meet other desperate crazy people. Trust me, I've been called to many a domestic situation where they met on a dating site that has verified that opinion.

 

[JeffKeryk]

@AutoMechanic I highly suggest you take a class or two at your local Community College. Lots of good things there...
You can always quit if you don't like it, right? Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Read your own posts; if what you are doing is not working, try something else. Just a respectful thought...

 

[Wheel]

My advice is from experience and that’s don’t do stupid stuff on the internet or the phone. Take it from someone who has been there and done that and got the scare of a lifetime. I’m not doing that again. Luckily it was a scam but I could have gotten in big trouble. Always verify the persons age your talking too as they can lie about it and best not to share any pictures or information till you know it’s legit. That’s definitely one of my young, dumb and stupid moments. Needless to say I’ll never do it again regardless of how much I think I need it. I was so embarrassed because the scammer texted every person in my family and shared the pictures I had sent too I just wanted to die at that point but I became a better person because of that whole situation because like I said never doing that crap again.

And to go along with my first point, there are a lot of scammers or fakes on dating sites so be careful. It seems I’m never going to find my perfect girl but I hope it comes one day. Dating sites are the only thing I can think of because I don’t do things to really meet women and I’m trying so hard in my life to meet them and I just am ready to give up especially after the scam and just overall bad luck on those sites.

Work on being a good person, and the right person will find you.

 

[walterjay]

My father told me "The truth is your shield"

 

[SubieRubyRoo]

Talking to Grandpa, who owned several sailboats and trawler-type boats during my entire life, when I said someday I’d like to have a boat:

Grandpa: “Do you know what a boat is?”
Me: Uhhh, well yeah… (DUH)
Gp: “No you don’t. A boat is a hole in the water that you throw money into”

 

[JeffKeryk]

Talking to Grandpa, who owned several sailboats and trawler-type boats during my entire life, when I said someday I’d like to have a boat:

Grandpa: “Do you know what a boat is?”
Me: Uhhh, well yeah… (DUH)
Gp: “No you don’t. A boat is a hole in the water that you throw money into”

Similar to restoring a classic Corvette... Stuff all the money inside you can and try and close the door.
"Beautiful car! Wow, you must be rich!" "I used to be..."

 

[Pew]

Don't use a chainsaw to dig a trench - somebody on bitog.

 

[SammyChevelleTypeS3]

Written by a very early American. Name of Benjamin Franklin.
Based upon his reputation , not surprised finding it recently in a small book on human interactions & respect for one another.

Not at all political or religious. It just sounds like good advice. I will strive to follow it going forward.
Mr. Franklin was quoted:
"I will speak ill will of no man , not even in a matter of truth. Rather , I will excuse the faults that I may hear , and upon proper occasions I plan to speak all the good that I know of everyone."
Certainly not any easy task for many of us , but seems well worth the effort in this day , just as well as when he wrote it.