SammyChevelleTypeS3
$50 site donor 2023
Listen to the older guys on the job. They been there for years for a reason.
BITOG wisdom/sage advice.
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Traditions exist for a reason. Things being the "norm" tend to be so for a reason.
My advice you should default to following the norm. If you choose not to that's fine but you should be really sure of why you aren't.
I mean that in so far as the normal route through life graduate, get a job, get married, by a house, have kids, and the like. I am 35 and figured this out in my early 20's so I know it isn't that hard to figure out, but seems to get missed.
Second peice of advice a honeymoon isn't a luxury but an important part of the marriage process. You should go on one in my opnion 3 or so months after the wedding. It should be a week long, and isn't optional. I say that having done just that and it was I feel foundational to my marriage. It was a great reminder/foundation showing me that I really just like spending time with my wife. That can get lost in the day to day grind and chaos of meshing two lives together.
My advice you should default to following the norm. If you choose not to that's fine but you should be really sure of why you aren't.
I mean that in so far as the normal route through life graduate, get a job, get married, by a house, have kids, and the like. I am 35 and figured this out in my early 20's so I know it isn't that hard to figure out, but seems to get missed.
Second peice of advice a honeymoon isn't a luxury but an important part of the marriage process. You should go on one in my opnion 3 or so months after the wedding. It should be a week long, and isn't optional. I say that having done just that and it was I feel foundational to my marriage. It was a great reminder/foundation showing me that I really just like spending time with my wife. That can get lost in the day to day grind and chaos of meshing two lives together.
Fix yourself first. You can't help anyone if you are broken.
In the first frustrating year of my still-running 48 year career, a wise man told me "work hard in life (passionate) to please yourself first, and most things will fall in place o.k.. Don't work hard to please others, as you will always be disappointed seeking approval and looking for rewards outside rather than within." It might seem a bit selfish, but it makes sense. Gotta love yourself first.
As a wise old man myself now, I make a point to keep a very open mind to my younger manager cohorts and our college age interns and employees as I am an old dog that still appreciates learning new tricks. Very important to keep learning every day of your life.
As a wise old man myself now, I make a point to keep a very open mind to my younger manager cohorts and our college age interns and employees as I am an old dog that still appreciates learning new tricks. Very important to keep learning every day of your life.
WRONG!!!! It's "I'm sorry, you're right, I love you"....................no matter the circumstances.
4WD
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You are welcome to bring your wife or girlfriend - just not both 
Often wondered if any of my hard earned sage advice made a difference with others that I preached it to, or if they even paid attention. My son finally assured me some of it made an impact when he had a flat tire episode a couple weeks ago. First, that he listened to me when he first started driving several years ago, and that he remembered my very typical longwinded, OCD, detail oriented, explanation of where everything was and a very exacting procedure with the change to ensure a successful outcome. But more importantly that he followed my advice of putting the spare donut on the back axle (FWD) even though the flat was a front tire. I explained that the difference in tire heights/circumference can cause the trans fluid to heat up faster because they rotate at different speeds and can possibly damage the internals if driven on too fast/too long. So what does he do? He puts the donut on the back, and takes the good wheel/tire and swaps it for the flat front one, meaning that he did essentially 2 tire changes. Guess they do listen sometimes.
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SammyChevelleTypeS3
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Those wise words are similar to a line in a big book from very long ago. Lots of people have read it. Many know the line.
The wife has reminded me of the line quite a few times over the years when I got frustrated trying to help someone.
It is a serious and valued line that I often forget. Not a problem, she is good at putting me in my place when I deserve it.
"love your enemies, and do good, and lend, expecting nothing in return, and your reward will be great"
"Opinions are like ****'s everyone has one"
"Only Commanders and ****'s stand in doorways"
"The grass is greener where you water it"
"Only Commanders and ****'s stand in doorways"
"The grass is greener where you water it"
The flipside of this adage is BITOG's endless complaining about road force tire balancing.
I am not exactly sure of what you mean by this, but some of those "insignificant" people do some pretty significant things... Ya never know. Don't judge me!
Sometimes a fool dismisses a golden piece of input because they foolishly disregarded a person’s value
Yes some very insignificant people do very significant things . I won't mention them because I would be blocked from forum. But some actions have very significant outcomes. There is true evil in this world , pick your crime against humanity . I truly don't care what happens to these people , because they have no soul . Ideology rules their life , and when they look back at their life they will see that , but those people don't look back because they are soulless .
I picked it up from a martial arts seminar. No clue where they got it. It has been pretty useful in a variety of places.Those wise words are similar to a line in a big book from very long ago. Lots of people have read it. Many know the line.
The wife has reminded me of the line quite a few times over the years when I got frustrated trying to help someone.
It is a serious and valued line that I often forget. Not a problem, she is good at putting me in my place when I deserve it.
What if the rules change, midway through the game? Must I still adhere to the first set of rules?
AutoMechanic
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My advice is from experience and that’s don’t do stupid stuff on the internet or the phone. Take it from someone who has been there and done that and got the scare of a lifetime. I’m not doing that again. Luckily it was a scam but I could have gotten in big trouble. Always verify the persons age your talking too as they can lie about it and best not to share any pictures or information till you know it’s legit. That’s definitely one of my young, dumb and stupid moments. Needless to say I’ll never do it again regardless of how much I think I need it. I was so embarrassed because the scammer texted every person in my family and shared the pictures I had sent too I just wanted to die at that point but I became a better person because of that whole situation because like I said never doing that crap again.
And to go along with my first point, there are a lot of scammers or fakes on dating sites so be careful. It seems I’m never going to find my perfect girl but I hope it comes one day. Dating sites are the only thing I can think of because I don’t do things to really meet women and I’m trying so hard in my life to meet them and I just am ready to give up especially after the scam and just overall bad luck on those sites.
And to go along with my first point, there are a lot of scammers or fakes on dating sites so be careful. It seems I’m never going to find my perfect girl but I hope it comes one day. Dating sites are the only thing I can think of because I don’t do things to really meet women and I’m trying so hard in my life to meet them and I just am ready to give up especially after the scam and just overall bad luck on those sites.
We always inform when the rules change. You do read the rules daily right?
