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Let him know you want the $200 back. If you never see the money returned, then never lend him money anymore.
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Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
Originally Posted By: Fsharp
Tell him you're broke and need to borrow $200 ($160?)
It was $240 he paid me twice $20 each time so now it's down to $200.
Okay, $200 then. Ask him to loan you the money and if he gives it to you say, "Thanks [censored], that's for the $200 you still owe me. Good to know you have the money to pay me back." If he says he can't lend you the money nag him a bit about why not. This way you may either find out more about his money situation or he may give in and give you the money.
Alternatively, whenever you two are out somewhere together, like a restaurant, or store, or bar, and it comes time to pay; ask him if he's "got this." If he can pay for the both of you. If he objects or asks why remind him that he still owes you $200. Make sure to do this in front of an audience; preferably, mutual friends, his wife, hot waitresses etc.
Originally Posted By: Fsharp
Tell him you're broke and need to borrow $200 ($160?)
It was $240 he paid me twice $20 each time so now it's down to $200.
Okay, $200 then. Ask him to loan you the money and if he gives it to you say, "Thanks [censored], that's for the $200 you still owe me. Good to know you have the money to pay me back." If he says he can't lend you the money nag him a bit about why not. This way you may either find out more about his money situation or he may give in and give you the money.
Alternatively, whenever you two are out somewhere together, like a restaurant, or store, or bar, and it comes time to pay; ask him if he's "got this." If he can pay for the both of you. If he objects or asks why remind him that he still owes you $200. Make sure to do this in front of an audience; preferably, mutual friends, his wife, hot waitresses etc.
If he buys things for you (drinks, food, entertainment, etc.), I wouldn't worry over it. If the money flows one way, explain to him it's been 3 years and $5 a week isn't going to kill him to reimburse you.
Pretty simple from my standpoint, don't lend him anymore money and forget about it
A person that borrows $200 and does not pay you back is not a good friend. Under no circumstances should you ever give him any more money.
In terms of getting paid back, anytime you are together doing anything that costs any money make sure you make him pay for both of you letting him know you are broke and that he is still running a $200 tab. If you chose to continue hanging out with this deadbeat then making him pay for everything is likely the only way you will ever see any of your $200 back again.
In terms of getting paid back, anytime you are together doing anything that costs any money make sure you make him pay for both of you letting him know you are broke and that he is still running a $200 tab. If you chose to continue hanging out with this deadbeat then making him pay for everything is likely the only way you will ever see any of your $200 back again.
You have two choices, a friendly reminder, or forget it. Either way learn from the experience and don't lend him anymore money. A real friend would have repaid you w/o having to be reminded.
I have one really great friend. We can say anything (serious) to each other. If he is truly a real friend you should be able to discuss the matter with him.
Originally Posted By: 901Memphis
Pretty simple from my standpoint, don't lend him anymore money and forget about it
and forget about him. Time to move on.
Originally Posted By: Shannow
If you lend a friend money and never see them again, it was probably worth it.
Yep.
Pretty simple from my standpoint, don't lend him anymore money and forget about it
and forget about him. Time to move on.
Originally Posted By: Shannow
If you lend a friend money and never see them again, it was probably worth it.
Yep.
Take it as a $160 life lesson(inexpensive) not to lend money to friends as it can sour relationships. It further extends to family however in that case if you get duped in forgive and move on.
Some people can make millions of dollars and be flat broke. Others, my i laws never made more then $50k/year but are millionaires in property(ocean front shacks now homes)
Bring it up it bothers you(once) and see what transpires. Good luck
Some people can make millions of dollars and be flat broke. Others, my i laws never made more then $50k/year but are millionaires in property(ocean front shacks now homes)
Bring it up it bothers you(once) and see what transpires. Good luck
Just forget those 200. It happens in friends relations. Just take it easy. The girl can go away and by the way she is a controller, won't take much.
Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
Well as far as friends go, he's the only one that I can reliably count on. If we decide to hang out tomorrow, he'll be there. I won't get a text with some [censored] excuse of why he can't hang out, which 9 times out of 10 that's how it is with all the other people I've tried to befriend and hang out with. I almost don't even have the energy to try and hang out with new people anymore because they cancel and I spend the rest of the day irritated and basically do nothing.
Reliable to hang out with?
You must be really young to think that it's a sign of a good friendship.
Well as far as friends go, he's the only one that I can reliably count on. If we decide to hang out tomorrow, he'll be there. I won't get a text with some [censored] excuse of why he can't hang out, which 9 times out of 10 that's how it is with all the other people I've tried to befriend and hang out with. I almost don't even have the energy to try and hang out with new people anymore because they cancel and I spend the rest of the day irritated and basically do nothing.
Reliable to hang out with?
It is $200. Not that much in the grand scheme of things. Just forget about it. You helped him in a time of need. One day, he may help you in a time of need for yourself.
Originally Posted By: mazdamonky
It is $200. Not that much in the grand scheme of things. Just forget about it. You helped him in a time of need. One day, he may help you in a time of need for yourself.
+1 A new buddy of mine did hours of welding on my tractors box blade and would only take $20 for materials last winter. Basically I owed him atleast $200, so this summer I helped him out with hay by doing a field for him which was quite a few hours and now we are about "even". Now I think we've established some trust and either of us won't worry about lending each other too much time, knowing that we are good for making it up when its needed.
It is $200. Not that much in the grand scheme of things. Just forget about it. You helped him in a time of need. One day, he may help you in a time of need for yourself.
+1 A new buddy of mine did hours of welding on my tractors box blade and would only take $20 for materials last winter. Basically I owed him atleast $200, so this summer I helped him out with hay by doing a field for him which was quite a few hours and now we are about "even". Now I think we've established some trust and either of us won't worry about lending each other too much time, knowing that we are good for making it up when its needed.
I lent a college roommate $90 in 1969 to bail him out of jail for open container in a vehicle. He never paid me back.
I have noticed in life that some people feel that if they borrow money from someone they perceive to have a lot of it, they don't feel they need to pay it back. Sort of like the person with money owes them. I used to get "hit on" for loans by guys in college, even fraternity brothers just because they thought I had money.
My father in law once told me he never lends people money. He would sometimes give people the money but never expected to be paid back. That way he said he never lost any friends over them not paying him back. He said it kept the slate clean.
I have noticed in life that some people feel that if they borrow money from someone they perceive to have a lot of it, they don't feel they need to pay it back. Sort of like the person with money owes them. I used to get "hit on" for loans by guys in college, even fraternity brothers just because they thought I had money.
My father in law once told me he never lends people money. He would sometimes give people the money but never expected to be paid back. That way he said he never lost any friends over them not paying him back. He said it kept the slate clean.
Originally Posted By: motor_oil_madman
Now he works at a chemical plant as a contractor and makes like $30/hr and rakes in the overtime, so I don't understand why he can't cough up 200 bucks.
He's a great friend,
just my opinion:
he is a con artist and not a friend...
Now he works at a chemical plant as a contractor and makes like $30/hr and rakes in the overtime, so I don't understand why he can't cough up 200 bucks.
He's a great friend,
just my opinion:
he is a con artist and not a friend...
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