Long hard day today.
Brother and sister are RNs and have been invaluable in helping with our mother during her slide into alzheimers.
She thinks my father is my long gone grandfather and doesn't recognize my other brother. She has recently started demanding to go home and is fixated that I'm the only that knows how to get her there.
The cruelty of the situation is both mom and dad have taken great care of themselves and having just crossed into their 90s could still probably do a 5k walk.
I've had to reorganize our efforts to manage the situation. Number 1 is to block all news channels as the more she watches the more she insists for me to take her home. When I got there today I changed the TV to our local 60s and 70s sitcoms channel, think Andy Griffith, Gomer Pyle, Green Acres and she chilled out soon and came back to us somewhat.
I of course know every day is different and it won't get any better but she is in the confusion stage and "home" is a yearning for comfort as she gets agitated and tired.
At least I can make her laugh since I can't take her home as she asks, because as I tell her she is my favorite mother.
I helped my dad through this with his dad 20 some years ago and I know first hand how this is going to end.
Praying for strength.
Brother and sister are RNs and have been invaluable in helping with our mother during her slide into alzheimers.
She thinks my father is my long gone grandfather and doesn't recognize my other brother. She has recently started demanding to go home and is fixated that I'm the only that knows how to get her there.
The cruelty of the situation is both mom and dad have taken great care of themselves and having just crossed into their 90s could still probably do a 5k walk.
I've had to reorganize our efforts to manage the situation. Number 1 is to block all news channels as the more she watches the more she insists for me to take her home. When I got there today I changed the TV to our local 60s and 70s sitcoms channel, think Andy Griffith, Gomer Pyle, Green Acres and she chilled out soon and came back to us somewhat.
I of course know every day is different and it won't get any better but she is in the confusion stage and "home" is a yearning for comfort as she gets agitated and tired.
At least I can make her laugh since I can't take her home as she asks, because as I tell her she is my favorite mother.
I helped my dad through this with his dad 20 some years ago and I know first hand how this is going to end.
Praying for strength.