Wow, I appreciate the feedback and help from everyone.
I'm going to share some more info to help narrow this down a bit. I want to stick with used as I have to park in a city occasionally with bad roads and some crime issues and drive on roads with deer, coyotes, and bad drivers. I'm a bit shy so I don't want to discuss where I live or my budget other than to say it's reasonably flexible for used fwd sedans of 5 years or older.
I'm wanting to try to avoid GM as we have never had good luck with our GMs. While I know the large GM sedans with the 3800 are recommended and have known people who have had excellent service, our results have have varied from the normal experiences (one relative used to have an 02 Grand Prix and it was constantly needing repairs to the 3800 and left him stranded several times due to the engine with only 104k miles and none of these were related to the intake gasket issues the series 2 was known for and numerous mechanics couldn't fix it completely and our results with the 60 degree engines weren't much better and their current engines have burned many of my family and friends). On top of this, I drove both a Lacrosse (I think it was an 07 but I know it had the 3800 series III) and a Ford Five Hundred back to back while having service performed on my daily driver. The cloth seats on the Lacrosse were not comfortable, it kept stalling, and felt like it was not aging well at around 100k miles vs the Five Hundred had the leather seats (just as one of my relative's 09 Taurus cloth seats had been) and found them comfortable and it seemed in better condition at 220k miles and never stalled.
The Camry I drove was an 18 LE as a rental before the wreck and more recently a 21 (I don't remember the trim but it was cloth interior). It was okay but I was hoping for something with thicker padding. Are the previous generation of the Camry, Avalon's, or ES less sporty and more generous on the seat padding (if so what years would be the best at the comfort)?
With the suggestion of the Accord what generation would be the best for softer vs sport and which powertrain would be the most reliable (I'm concerned about any version featuring cylinder deactivation and concerned about CVTs)
Concerning VW, I tried one but it didn't work. Too narrow seats with too much bolstering.
I already am looking for the highest tire sidewall and smallest wheel diameter and the lowest speed rating on the tires ( though I thank you for the suggestion). One thing I thought of as well is the struts? When a relative had their 09 Taurus switched from the soft struts to firm struts which transformed the ride into a Sporter ride when another relative installed new struts in their 11-20 Grand Caravan it made it much floatier than it was from the factory. Are there brands available which provide softer ride?