Snide comment on saying going 10,180 miles on first oil change is too long ? I stand by that comment .You say perfectly maintained but replacing coils every 30k seems incredibly excessive. You have no evidence that the "Carbon" you see in the bucket is causing damage, or if it is in fact carbon at all- your assertion that the filters will not capture carbon particles as far as I can tell has no evidence either. It's great for you to pour unlimited money into preventative maintenance, but that's no reason to make a snide comment about "you must not want to keep it very long" indicating that he is poorly maintaining his vehicle and doesn't care about it.
VW I know for fact are carbon making machines . As are most gdi engines with only one injector. I have no evidence that carbon produces wear ? You tell me what it does then ? It's like sandpaper on your guides. So any other questions ?