This should help you with the relay:
Fan Relay Removal and Replacement (WJ)
Removal
1.Remove the negative battery cable from the battery.
2.To cut the access hole for the relay, first you must remove the passenger side headlight. To do this, remove the jackscrew from the top of the headlight. The jackscrew is directly on top of the headlamp and does NOT screw into the radiator core support (see pic below). After the jackscrew is fully removed (this screw is roughly 6" long), grasp the headlight assembly and forcefully pull the headlamp outward. Unplug the headlight wiring harness. Notice the exising hole in plastic under headlamp on my WJ.
Jackscrew
Headlamp removed
Hole in Header Panel
Relay pullled out for changing
Reinstall
1.Connect the new relay to the wiring harness. Be sure it is firmly seated.
2.Attach the relay to the vehicle body in its previous location.
3.Reconnect the headlamp wiring harness.
4.Insert the headlamp back into its original position.
5.Reinstall the jackscrew in the appropriate hole. Be sure to apply some pressure to the bottom of the housing while doing this to assure the jackscrew passes through the retaining loop on the back of the headlamp. If you miss this retaining loop, you run the risk of breaking it off when tightening the jackscrew.
6.Reattach the negatie battery cable to the battery.
7.Start the vehicle and let it idle until normal operating tempurature is reached. You should hear the electic fan kick on around 210°.