Define what you mean by afford. Sometimes people miss meaning due to how words can be used differently. I think I am missing yours.
When I bought I did a conventional 30 year. Careful shopping and kept the house to 2x my salary. Mortgage officer goofed on the offer about PMI and didn't have to pay that. In 13 years I went from 5% of the purchase price to 62%. I took a 7% paycut (and lost a week of pay) during the recession. Took advantage of refi rates and dropped into a conventional 15 year when the rates dropped. While raising a family and putting the wife through graduate school and putting a bit towards retirement. Today I think my mort+tax is under what I'd pay in rent (albeit a rental would have more space than my tiny house).
Sounds like your neighbor chose poorly.
I see how you are right about how it can be poor for the country, but my point is, an individual can game the system.
When I bought I did a conventional 30 year. Careful shopping and kept the house to 2x my salary. Mortgage officer goofed on the offer about PMI and didn't have to pay that. In 13 years I went from 5% of the purchase price to 62%. I took a 7% paycut (and lost a week of pay) during the recession. Took advantage of refi rates and dropped into a conventional 15 year when the rates dropped. While raising a family and putting the wife through graduate school and putting a bit towards retirement. Today I think my mort+tax is under what I'd pay in rent (albeit a rental would have more space than my tiny house).
Sounds like your neighbor chose poorly.
I see how you are right about how it can be poor for the country, but my point is, an individual can game the system.