Similar here, my siblings and I at the age of 18, two choices.Again I came across an article saying 12th graders today, are like 8th graders from before. I believe it. My dad was fed up I had a BS in economics, and was a waiter. He gave me until the end of August, to either find a job, or move back home. For us, it was a source of shame to live with parents at 22. Today, 45, 50, even never moving out is ok, because how else is a person going to maintain a middle class lifestyle?
Parents would pay for college OR you get a full time job and start paying room and board. Exactly those words, no, ifs and or butts, one full sentence from my dad, you make your choice.
To this day I am so thankful in how I was raised and I followed that formula to my own kids, all successful and proud of what they have achieved and continue to achieve. Even now, well some years ago, our youngest daughter acknowledges even if she didnt "see it" at the time, she is thankful compared to some of her friends who were given everything they asked for without working for it. Hearing that and similar stuff like that from my kids, now adults has made my world complete.