Well I'll tell you all something. I used a keylogger program when I got suspicious of my ladies online activity. And you know what? Glad I did. I got every single email, IM, password and other info that she was sharing with another guy. Needless to say, she has since left. It was MY computer in MY house, on MY bill that I paid. It gave me her passwords, his email addy, etc.. I used it to MY advantage. When I confronted him before I confronted her, both were in a state of disbelief. It was a big "how'd he do that" moment.