Similar situation.
I stuck it out, retired early, grabbed the retirement bennies ASAP, never looked back.
I knew I did a great job, that is what was important to me.
Don't let your job define who you are.
Jobs and companies come and go, you will always be you.
You don't need a weatherman to tell you which way the wind blows.
Job sucks the life out of me.
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Wow, lots of great advice on this thread!
For the time being stay at your current job, reapply for the union job .
Originally Posted By: Mr Nice
For the time being stay at your current job, reapply for the union job .
Work to live not live to work.
There are plenty of folks who'd be happy to be in your position.
I'm in a similar spot, but I have the option of retiring on any given day, we are well past having young children, our house is long paid for and we have significant savings/investments along with defined benefit retirement plans, so that's a bit different.
You may not love your current job, but it may be more typical than you realize.
There's a reason that the Dilbert cartoons had so much resonance for so many people.
It sounds like you need to develop other interests.
A walk thorough the stacks at you local public library might be a start.
So many interesting things to read.
I could recommend some fascinating non-fiction if you'd like.
Things dont magically happen nor do you need to take drastic steps to change.
Write down what are some options. Write down what it is you want. If your boss says what is it you want, do you have an answer of what you want changed?
If what you want to explore is a job change, that also doesn't happen by itself. But dont fall into the trap that this is a drastic rash decision you have to make now and cant undo later.
You seem to be slightly already caught in the spiral of this means I have to move and find new friends and so on so why even look.
Typically you can take some steps to pursue and develop options without quitting your day job. Explore. Don't say no until you need to.
See whats out there and take those steps up until the point that you have to choose. There's no risk in just talking to people and developing the options.
Ultimately though you have to take the first steps and do something different if you want change. It may feel like a leap but it really isn't a leap at this point. Instead it's a series of small steps until you have to make a final decision.
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Set aside some of each day to increase your knowledge. Things can change at the most unexpected times.
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Originally Posted By: 5AcresAndAFool
Its a smaller company in a smaller city so the only people that seem to get hired under the current regime are friends and family of people there who are department heads, or employees that matter.
Try to approach this from a different point of view: one of the key concepts of Emotional IQ is that you own this problem. you can only control your own response to a situation. Since you clearly can't change your coworker, or the management attitude, change your own view. It's not easy, but has the most potential impact.
Just make sure that you continue to do YOUR best each day. as others have suggested, find something else in your life to be your focus for enjoyment and life-improvement. It does work. Some of the people that I work with are complete idiots. I spent 4 years bored and finding no worth in my job. things are good now. what changed? my attitude and approach.
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Every place has office politics, petty [censored] and coworkers that are idiots. You said the job is easy and you only work 40 hours a week, those two things don't happen everywhere.
My take is if you aren't happy here, you won't be happy at the next place either...so start looking inward for ways to feel satisfied.
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Originally Posted By: bigj_16
Keep the job. Find something meaningful outside of work.
Originally Posted By: aquariuscsm
Originally Posted By: 5AcresAndAFool
Its a smaller company in a smaller city so the only people that seem to get hired under the current regime are friends and family of people there who are department heads, or employees that matter.
I’m in the utility industry as well in a power station. Theres good things and bad things about it like everything else in life. For me, the days that there is something bothering me i channel that energy into studying for more certifications. This way, when the right higher paying job comes up i’ll be ready for it. It gives me something to look forward to at least for the professional side of my life instead of falling into the victim mentality.
Originally Posted By: Rolla07
I think you need to try to focus on a hobby or something on the side.. I wouldnt worry too much about the guy who works with you.. I would however find someone very skilled at the role and do all you can to learn from them if thats what you want to do. If you learn more will it enable to provide you with more credentials for work elsewhere if its ever needed? Think of it as, a fallback plan. See if they can cover any type of skill training or certifications on their dime, so at least if you decide down the road to walk away, you have some credentials and experience that will be valid for other roles. I think just doing a side class or hobby a couple times a week would change your mindset. You need something new in your life to break the mold!
Originally Posted By: fdcg27
Work to live not live to work.
There are plenty of folks who'd be happy to be in your position.
I'm in a similar spot, but I have the option of retiring on any given day, we are well past having young children, our house is long paid for and we have significant savings/investments along with defined benefit retirement plans, so that's a bit different.
You may not love your current job, but it may be more typical than you realize.
There's a reason that the Dilbert cartoons had so much resonance for so many people.
It sounds like you need to develop other interests.
A walk thorough the stacks at you local public library might be a start.
So many interesting things to read.
I could recommend some fascinating non-fiction if you'd like.
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Originally Posted By: aquariuscsm
Originally Posted By: 5AcresAndAFool
Its a smaller company in a smaller city so the only people that seem to get hired under the current regime are friends and family of people there who are department heads, or employees that matter.
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Originally Posted By: tomcat27
Try to approach this from a different point of view: one of the key concepts of Emotional IQ is that you own this problem. you can only control your own response to a situation. Since you clearly can't change your coworker, or the management attitude, change your own view. It's not easy, but has the most potential impact.
Just make sure that you continue to do YOUR best each day. as others have suggested, find something else in your life to be your focus for enjoyment and life-improvement. It does work. Some of the people that I work with are complete idiots. I spent 4 years bored and finding no worth in my job. things are good now. what changed? my attitude and approach.
Ahhhh utilities...will ride the willing horse into the deck.
You've received some good advice, that I hope to take advantage of.
As to your children's schooling...when I was a tacker, my sister with Spina Bifida was not allowed to go to a normal school, but was supposed to be institutionalised. My parents packed us into the car one Christmas Holidays, and took us 500 miles interstate...then found a house to rent, then found jobs.
Dad was a night watchman/janitor, and later a welder on night shift at a car factory. Mum picked up work as a teacher with fairly transportable skills...they moved on and up, and we moved 7 years later to another state, and some pretty good jobs for those two.
Substation operator and metering technician...you are portable...good Met Techs are gold.
As to getting decent references from your local "team", that migh prove difficult.
Originally Posted By: dishdude
Every place has office politics, petty [censored] and coworkers that are idiots. You said the job is easy and you only work 40 hours a week, those two things don't happen everywhere.
My take is if you aren't happy here, you won't be happy at the next place either...so start looking inward for ways to feel satisfied.
Originally Posted By: Shannow
Ahhhh utilities...will ride the willing horse into the deck.
You've received some good advice, that I hope to take advantage of.
As to your children's schooling...when I was a tacker, my sister with Spina Bifida was not allowed to go to a normal school, but was supposed to be institutionalised. My parents packed us into the car one Christmas Holidays, and took us 500 miles interstate...then found a house to rent, then found jobs.
Dad was a night watchman/janitor, and later a welder on night shift at a car factory. Mum picked up work as a teacher with fairly transportable skills...they moved on and up, and we moved 7 years later to another state, and some pretty good jobs for those two.
Substation operator and metering technician...you are portable...good Met Techs are gold.
As to getting decent references from your local "team", that migh prove difficult.
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