It can't sound that bad, can it?

[daves87rs]

I'm taking a little bashing from a friend on this one. A couple of my buddies and I were dicussing what cars were planning to get in the next few years. Anyways, on to the point..

Wife currently drives our 03 Cavalier. Minus a bit of rust (in process of fixing), car is in great shape for it's age. I'm planning on another 4 door car to add to our fleet in the near future. Something newer (Ion, Focus,etc) with bit of miles (guessing around 100k) which I'm sure she'll drive (whatever I get will be an upgrade ) Plans will be to completely update that car, so it can go anywhere we want it. Upside to this is that she does not drive a bunch, which keeps the miles down anyways. The part my buddy didn't like was that I might add another car base Cruze maybe) for me later down the road. Even though it willl be mine, of course she can drive it. Part of the reason for me doing so is that she is hard on cars, and I don't want to fight about stupid stuff that she might do to the car. (I tend to really upkeep them anyways. If I feel it's a beater to me, I won't worry about the dents, scrathes, and stuff like that. One buddy calls me out for being cheap and thoughtless to my family, while the other sees it as fine since he knows how I maintain my cars. What do you guys think?

 

[AuthorEditor]

My wife drives the nicer and more reliable car, and in exchange I get a nice and reliable wife. Whatever will keep your wife the happiest is the best plan in the long run.

 

[willix]

You have taken the appropriate steps to achieve transportation needs & relative harmony with your marriage.

 

[bigmike]

Who cares what your buddy thinks?

 

[daves87rs]

Originally Posted By: willix
You have taken the appropriate steps to achieve transportation needs & relative harmony with your marriage.


That kinda funny...pretty much what my buddy said too...


It can be tough when you marry a car guy....that, she is not. (car person)

 

[Samilcar]

Maybe my reading comprehension is just bad, but I can't see how anything you're currently doing (or plan on doing in the future) could in any way be "thoughtless to your family". Continue as you're doing and tell your one bonehead friend to take a hike.

 

[Win]

Originally Posted By: bigmike
Who cares what your buddy thinks?


+1 on that, but I have to tell you I never understood why someone would buy a nice car for their own use and stick the wife and kids in a beater, but if you two are happy, it's not anyone else's business.

 

[FloatingBrick]

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in exchange I get a nice and reliable wife

+1
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Who cares what your buddy thinks?

See above.

I have to add that I am very blessed - my wife doesn't mind what she is driving, as long as it is reliable. Before we got the 00 Taurus she was driving my 81 LTD with shredded interior and mix and match paint with zero complaints. As long as she got to where she needed to be, she was good.

 

[sciphi]

It's between you and your wife. As long as the two of you are happy with the arrangements of cars in the household, who cares what others think?

Both cars in my signature are taken care of pretty well, the Buick more so than the Fit. The Fit is still in the "needs only regular fluid changes, brakes and tires" stage of maintenance, while the Buick is in the "needs regular attention" phase.

I don't care if she has a newer, less rattly car than me. It's reassuring knowing she's in a safe, reliable car, and I can fix issues that come up with mine.

 

[Mr Nice]

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One buddy calls me out for being cheap and thoughtless to my family


He doesn't sound like a freind to me. If thats what you can afford and its in your budget, then I'm sure your wife will like it.

 

[PandaBear]

If giving nice cars to family is the only way to show that you are not cheap and thoughtless to your family, then your friend isn't very mature.

 

[daves87rs]

Originally Posted By: FloatingBrick
Quote:
in exchange I get a nice and reliable wife

+1
Quote:
Who cares what your buddy thinks?

See above.

I have to add that I am very blessed - my wife doesn't mind what she is driving, as long as it is reliable. Before we got the 00 Taurus she was driving my 81 LTD with shredded interior and mix and match paint with zero complaints. As long as she got to where she needed to be, she was good.


Sounds like mine...she actually likes her cav. Is there cars she wants? Sure, but she would much rather have other things like a vacation...cars are not high on her list.

 

[daves87rs]

Originally Posted By: PandaBear
If giving nice cars to family is the only way to show that you are not cheap and thoughtless to your family, then your friend isn't very mature.


He one of those "need to take care of the women", and everthing has to be the best for her. And if you're not doing it, then you are not being thoughtful kinda guys....


Funny part is that she has a new Caravan to drive, but she really enjoys driving the beater in the family, the 03 Imapla...she loves that floatly ride!

Just to think of the money that he could have saved....

 

[TooManyWheels]

Originally Posted By: daves87rs


Funny part is that she has a new Caravan to drive, but she really enjoys driving the beater in the family, the 03 Imapla...she loves that floatly ride!

My wife has usually been the principal driver of the newer vehicle. The exception was when she decided she didn't like the newer vehicle (Toyota Tacoma), and went back to her six years older Silverado.

 

[addyguy]

As long as you keep your wife safe and happy, who really cares?

 

[beanoil]

If all 4 wheels are round, and the vehicle is safe and reliable, you do what makes your family work. A car is point a to point b, nothing more in the big picture. I like my 99 F250 with almost 150k on it. My spouse has the '10 Equinox because of great fuel economy and room for my daughters wheelchair. But sometimes, she drives the truck, and I'll make a run in the Nox, depending upon distance and what gets transported. And it isn't any of my friends' business.

 

[01rangerxl]

I see nothing wrong with your plans. If your wife is happy and the car is reliable, there is no issue.

My parents have solved this dilemma simply by picking out their own cars. My dad chooses his own daily driver, and my mom chooses her's. Sometimes they buy a third vehicle that both are okay with driving. This seems to work out well. My dad has his Civic Hybrid which my mom hates, and she has her Mazda 3 that she loves.

 

[Virtuoso]

It's your marriage.

 

[fdcg27]

If your wife is happy with what she drives, and it is reliable (it must be, or she wouldn't be happy), there is no issue.
My wife has usually driven the newest of our cars, as she does now, but she really doesn't care.
If I have her in something reliable and adequate for what she needs to do, she is happy.
I should add that my wife drives a stick better than most men, and that I have always found her to be very nice.
Every woman has an inner [censored] into which she can tap.
My wife has rarely done so in all of the years we have been married.
A new car is the least of her concerns.
Ignore your friend.