Agree with thrace. Buy the stupid washer as a backup, but re-use the original. Unless Honda's actually changed the basic design of their automatic transaxle drain plug washers since 1996 (the year Accord I owned), it's just a flat aluminum washer that's way overpriced. If you want to achieve a closer-to-flush exchange without the mess and risk of disconnecting cooler lines, go with four drains and refills intermingled with five or six miles of driving between each - doesn't all have to be done the same day. Using 427Z06'a volume figures, each drain and refill will exchange about 41% (3.1 / 7.6) of the fluid. Since that leaves 59% of the previous remainder, by four times you'll be down to about 7% (a 93% exchange!) of the original fluid. (0.59 x 0.59 x 0.59 x 0.59 = 0.0714). 12 quarts. Going a fifth drain and refill only brings you down to 4% (a 96% exchange) that's probably not cost effective when weighed against the expense of three additional quarts of Honda ATF.)
That drain plug could be STUBBORN if it's never previosly been removed. Use a 1/2" breaker bar with a quality 1/2" to 3/8" reducer. Have a 3' length of 3/4" pipe handy for extra leverage and you should be able to persuade that plug to loosen without any trouble.