Agree with the sentiment that typical city/stop & go driving increases wear more than hwy driving reduces it.
Think of all the upshifts and downshifts you make in typical suburban or city driving.
Think of the turns the work the steering system, the rought roads, potholes, speed bumps that are wearing the shocks, struts, ball joints, control arms, springs, etc.
Think of the hundreds of times you use the brakes, many times while turning and driving on rough roads.
On the highway, little of the above is happening. Not only are the fluids up to temp but so are all the systems. The trans is in top gear and happy. The engine is running in its temp range and has little load on it. You are not turning so the steering components are doing almost nothing. The road surface is in good condition by comparison so suspension wear is minimal.
It's not the engine wear that's an issue, it's the wear on all the other subsystems. I've noticed this with service trucks and vans - the drivetrains are fine but the rest of the vehicle is literally falling apart after 150K or so. Brakes shot after 25K, tires don't make it past 30K, suspensions slap wore out before 100K. Even over 200K the engines and trannies work well, but everything else is junk. A few vehicles are loaded up and some tow but most are just used in everyday city and suburban driving on paved roads and see little actual highway miles.