Doug,
it sounds like you have quite a similar idea to the owner at Pete's. We also do not allow clutchless shifts, unless it's me. Although the RTLO's seem to shift quite nicley with the clutch. But I learned to drive on a notchy old 5&4 (steer with knee and shift with both hands).
In the towing industry here is the states we don't put a lot of miles on our trucks, but many hours. (79 W900 1040SDU with 538K miles, lost track of hours - 10K+). It's not uncommon to have a truck running for 12-15 hours and only put 200 miles on it in a day.
That 79 W900 has had many diff failures. It only has 40K rears and runs mineral lube. It seems that this is more related to the drivers lack of ability than a lube related problem. Usally broken axles. And this truck interestly see some of lower lube temps (80-125F average).
We have had excellant results with the DSP462/3P with either 4.11/5.60 or the 4.33/5.90.
We usally have a mechanical failure before the synthetic lube really needs to be changed (even with mostly senor drivers, these are high maintence trucks - very sever duty on/off road). I am thinking of trying a differant brand lube for the RTLO's, the factory fill shifts poorly, IMO, cold in all of our trucks.
What brand oil's are you running in the diffs/trans? The factory fill is claimed to be a PAO, and I have not complaints about the oil or component life - I just want the trans to shift nicer cold. What good is having your cake if you can't eat it?
Patrick