Anyone else have this problem? Flaky friends. So summer is ending soon and I want to go enjoy the outdoors before it is cold for next 6 months. Last 2 weeks I have been trying to get some people together for camping, and really all I need is a single other person to go. But I can't even get that. Just a simple Friday and Saturday. This is what ANNOYS ME to no end. Excuses without any sort of proof afterwards. One says I have to fix my garage, replace rotten wood etc. because city has demanded I fix it by such and such date. But I know his history, he will just procrastinate, put off doing work until the last second. He could easily go camping, but you know what I hear? Excuses. It took him 3 months to change timing belt on his CRV, 2 months to change rotten power steering line, and other stuff. Oh, and I tried to get him to do stuff while he was fixing those cars, but he always used those car repairs as an excuse. Many weekends he never did any work. He is always making excuses when I want to do things with him, but he never seems to have anything going on when HE is the one planning the camping trip.
And then I have another friend, who tells me has to study for a final exam. He says he can't go camping because he has to study for a final, but you know what he has done for last several days? Watch me playing video games all the rest of the evening after work. I feel like telling him to go study, but I believe it won't change the excuse he is making. And then I got 2 other friends who are comfort addicts and don't want to do anything but play games all day every day, and don't want to camp in a tent because it is not comfortable.
I mean, I totally get that if you don't like camping in a tent, you don't like it. Fine. I do not ask my comfort addict friends to go camping. But some of my friends say they really like it, but NEVER seem to get around to doing it. My friend who is studying likes camping he says, but hasn't done it for like 8 years. Ugh! I just get tired of talk, but no walk. Another couple at my work always talk about wanting to go camping, but when we bring it up, they say, "It's too cold!" "That's too far away!" "That is too expensive!" "That has no shower!" Blah blah blah.
Rant over. My question is are most people like this? Do most people really just want to avoid any kind of commitment to doing something? I am I just out of luck? Or do I really need to change my expectations? I don't understand why people just like to sit around at home and do nothing. My friend who studied for a final literally just slept till like 3pm last saturday. It drives men nuts. Why can't I find anyone who likes to get out of the house? Is this rare? I could go camping alone, but it is a long drive!
And then I have another friend, who tells me has to study for a final exam. He says he can't go camping because he has to study for a final, but you know what he has done for last several days? Watch me playing video games all the rest of the evening after work. I feel like telling him to go study, but I believe it won't change the excuse he is making. And then I got 2 other friends who are comfort addicts and don't want to do anything but play games all day every day, and don't want to camp in a tent because it is not comfortable.
I mean, I totally get that if you don't like camping in a tent, you don't like it. Fine. I do not ask my comfort addict friends to go camping. But some of my friends say they really like it, but NEVER seem to get around to doing it. My friend who is studying likes camping he says, but hasn't done it for like 8 years. Ugh! I just get tired of talk, but no walk. Another couple at my work always talk about wanting to go camping, but when we bring it up, they say, "It's too cold!" "That's too far away!" "That is too expensive!" "That has no shower!" Blah blah blah.
Rant over. My question is are most people like this? Do most people really just want to avoid any kind of commitment to doing something? I am I just out of luck? Or do I really need to change my expectations? I don't understand why people just like to sit around at home and do nothing. My friend who studied for a final literally just slept till like 3pm last saturday. It drives men nuts. Why can't I find anyone who likes to get out of the house? Is this rare? I could go camping alone, but it is a long drive!
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