Well, I figure it is time for an update since I ended up with two bits of information that might prove useful to someone.
First of all, rather than looking for a long bolt and cutting it to length, I discovered that Mercedes used the bolt I wanted, just with a smaller head. Still big enough that I think it would have worked. Napa sold me one for 2.60, so I was happy about that.
I say "would have" because it turns out that not all VTEC aluminum oil pans are threaded beyond the 11-12 mm that the oem plug needs. Mine's not. I used a probe to check thread depth and there was nothing back there on any side. So, I grabbed some permeates, sealed in the old one, and will order a drain valve to install at the next oil change. For that I will get a better sealant, since it is supposed to be permanent.
Anyway, I hope some of this can help someone. Not sure how to tell from outside how much threading to expect, but have a backup in case the long bolt can't fit. If it can, Like I say, Mercedes can save you the cutting and tapering trouble.
Mike