If it's taking a breaker bar to get off, it's being 'crazily tightened'. It's been years since anyone besides me has done an oil change on one of my vehicles. When I stick to the method of hand tight, then 1/8 turn with a filter wrench, I NEVER have an issue removing a canister filter. I've even tried stopping at 'hand tight', but the Motorcrafts on my Focus leak if I don't go a little further.
I've used just about every tool out there designed for filter removal, and haven't found anything that works better than a cap-style. If you don't have one, make that investment. Couple that with a ratchet & extension to get you hands away from the 'danger zone' (knuckle-busting on the sub-frame or engine), you shouldn't have any problems with your filter.
Are you lubricating the seal before you install?