Hand tight plus 1/8-1/4 turn with a wrench, that seems to be working for me since the mid 70's. My 3.6L Pentastar cartridge filter cap, 100 inch pounds.
Some canister filters like the Toyota OEM and Denso ones have a "torque stop" feature where the can bottoms out on the mount to set the correct gasket compression. I like how those work, I've never had one leak.
Being that I can only grab half the filter because the other half is surrounded by the oil pan . . . if I tighten it by hand . . . there's no way to over tighten it. This next time coming up though, I'm gonna use a cup wrench.
I tighten filters by hand to what seems a reasonable amount.
I don't put a gorilla grip on it.
Sometimes I get it just right and can remove the filter without tools.
More often, I have to use a filter wrench of some sort to remove it.