This one is easy.
Federal, Winchester Ranger, Remington, or Hornady.
Most low recoil rounds will come with a flite control wad. Hornady buys and uses the Federal flite control wads, but calls them Versatite wads. I can do with or without a flite control wad. It basically acts like a slug out to about 15 yards or so, which is much further than most home defense situations.
The low recoil Federal #1 buckshot load is considered the king of the hill defensive load. It can be hard to find at times. Part number LE132-1B
http://www.sgammo.com/product/12-gauge-a...ol-wad-le132-1b
Federal H132 00 comes with a regular wad (not flite control) which would offer a better spread at home defense distances, and is probably my favorite up close and personal 00 buck load.
https://www.midwayusa.com/product/581296...ellets-box-of-5
Fiocchi is a yes, and a no. Reason being, they make ammo in American and in Italy. The ones made in Italy will have a European roll crimp, which makes the shell longer, which therefor causes your gun to lose one round capacity. I tend to avoid European crimp shotgun ammo for defensive use for that very reason. I only use it for plinking, blasting, or hunting in a pinch.
If you are worried about over penetration, or live in an apartment, then I highly recommend #4 buck.
http://www.sgammo.com/product/12-gauge-a...shot-ammo-xb124