The assumption here is also that those receiving charity are worthy of it. Many people expect others to gave them things that they are able to obtain themselves...choosing charity instead. They feel entitled. While this is not the case in the majority of situations (I would hope anyway), charity is sometimes wasted on the unworthy. Maybe another unpalatable part of this whole "giving" thing...but it's the truth.
I know of a person (a very close person) that used to be part of a church sponsored Christmas gift buying program for families that were poor. The focus on the program was to provide families with a Christmas that they were unable to have. This person I knew would often spend sometimes hundreds of dollars to do the good deed. One particular Christmas a small disadvantaged family was late in asking the church for help. My friend decided to take up the task of helping them even if it was two days before Christmas, as nobody was willing to step up. A child in this family had asked for a train set and the mother wanted some clothes. My friend went out and immediately searched far and wide for the train he wanted. It was very hard to find at this late date...but she found one and it was over $150. Feeling charitable...my friend purchased it and also got the mother an assortment of clothes she asked for. Well, Christmas morning my friend wrapped the gifts and took them over to the apartment building to give them to the needy family. When the boy opened the present with the train it it...his first words were "This isn't the train I wanted" and he threw it across the room. What did the mother do? Nothing...she was busy opening up her presents of clothes. Not a thank you....not a Merry Christmas from them....only an expectation of something more!
That was the very last time my friend participated in that program. She learned a lot about how some people receiving charity are unthankful and worthless human beings EXPECTING people to carry them because they have had some hard luck...or are just bums.
NHHEMI....this thread didn't go "down the toilet". Why would you say that? Is it because many on here didn't get to feel good about being charitable because I had expressed a valid point about charity? I think you, and others, are upset because you wanted an opportunity to self-congratulate one another on how "giving" you all are.
Maybe just give next time and keep it private? It's like a point and tally score otherwise and unworthy of the cause.
My opinion.
I know of a person (a very close person) that used to be part of a church sponsored Christmas gift buying program for families that were poor. The focus on the program was to provide families with a Christmas that they were unable to have. This person I knew would often spend sometimes hundreds of dollars to do the good deed. One particular Christmas a small disadvantaged family was late in asking the church for help. My friend decided to take up the task of helping them even if it was two days before Christmas, as nobody was willing to step up. A child in this family had asked for a train set and the mother wanted some clothes. My friend went out and immediately searched far and wide for the train he wanted. It was very hard to find at this late date...but she found one and it was over $150. Feeling charitable...my friend purchased it and also got the mother an assortment of clothes she asked for. Well, Christmas morning my friend wrapped the gifts and took them over to the apartment building to give them to the needy family. When the boy opened the present with the train it it...his first words were "This isn't the train I wanted" and he threw it across the room. What did the mother do? Nothing...she was busy opening up her presents of clothes. Not a thank you....not a Merry Christmas from them....only an expectation of something more!
That was the very last time my friend participated in that program. She learned a lot about how some people receiving charity are unthankful and worthless human beings EXPECTING people to carry them because they have had some hard luck...or are just bums.
NHHEMI....this thread didn't go "down the toilet". Why would you say that? Is it because many on here didn't get to feel good about being charitable because I had expressed a valid point about charity? I think you, and others, are upset because you wanted an opportunity to self-congratulate one another on how "giving" you all are.
Maybe just give next time and keep it private? It's like a point and tally score otherwise and unworthy of the cause.
My opinion.
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