We have a 2012 Sedona with the 3.5 and it is not especially noisy on start up, although it is even quieter when warmed up. The QSGB that was in it when we bought it has been the noisiest oil we've had in it and I didn't think that was very noisy either.
Running Ultra 5w20 right now. The quietest of all I've run in it was Edge Ti gold bottle, will be going back to that when the SOPUS syns I got on sale are gone.
Did one UOA not real impressed with the 5w20's wear numbers although the oil held up extremely well. Will be moving up to 5w30 next time I purchase oil for it and UOA again to have a look.