Here is my final update on my Bitdefender troubles...
I kept trying to fix BD but had no luck with it. I removed it permanently and was able to re-start my ESET free trial after I located my trial ID and password in my saved email file. Earlier today I was doing several projects at once and did not have the time to search for that email from ESET so I just re-installed BD so my computer would not be sitting here naked with no AV.
So I have ESET NOD32 AV again now, it is working fine, I can use all the settings and controls on it. I had no trouble at all with installing ESET again, I added my exclusions in ESET and MBAM Pro to avoid any conflicts between the two and also excluded Itunes in ESET. ESET ran its first scan, it did not take very long and I am not having any trouble at all with my computer or the ESET AV. The scans I did with BD each took over an hour to complete.
I went ahead just now and ordered the $20.00 one-year ESET AV with 3 licenses from New Egg. One for me, one for my wife's laptop and I guess I could give one to a family member if anyone needs it. I have no idea why I had so much trouble with BD. It seemed to be OK in the beginning, maybe I screwed it up somehow but I don't see how when I did the standard "let us configure everything for you" installation. Maybe it was because I removed and reinstalled BD too many times. I only bought the BD deal because it was said to be the very best, top of the line and the price was only $8.00. Oh well. $8.00 lesson learned.
Thanks for your help here.