Originally Posted By: pandus13
Originally Posted By: exranger06
Originally Posted By: Quattro Pete
Originally Posted By: exranger06
and none of you are going to talk me out of it.
Huh? Where did that come from? This thread is not about talking someone out of marriage. It's about not letting someone pressure you into it unless it's your own decision. We should all be allowed to make our own decisions in this matter.
Apparently you missed the 10+ pages of almost everyone saying marriage is a horrible idea, and one would be foolish to even consider getting married. And then one poster specifically told me to "run," unless she's really rich.
but also a few folks said, "i'm happy for you", "good for you", so there are a few folks that care for you genuinely.
so good luck, start thinking of "us", not me and her ("my future wife" comes to mind, wedding is just a ceremony) and try to get trough what life trows at you together.
it will either break both of you or make both of you stronger.
to the other guys, don't worry, you already know things could be worst, so enjoy what you have and maybe things will get better...
Bobby McFerrin anyone?
Yeah, I didn't catch that post until you quoted it, but it made me feel compelled to scan the entire thread. This thread isn't "10+ pages of almost everyone saying marriage is a horrible idea". It seems that there's certainly a fair share of people saying "I'm married and it's awesome."
Certainly though, the most vocal people seem to be either those who were wronged, or those who heard one too many stories of people being wronged. It's one thing to choose to remain a bachelor because that's just what you want (for whatever reason), it's another thing to choose to be a bachelor and then try to use second-hand stories you heard on the internet to dissuade people from connecting with another person and choosing to build a life together.
My approach through bachelorhood was this.... if I meet somebody that knocks me off my feet, I will embrace them and be the best husband I can be. If that doesn't happen and my money gets spent on Porsches instead of raising a family, that's fine too. The point is to go with the flow and make the best out of the hand that life deals you.
To me the most amusing part about the stories about guys getting taken for all they've got is that nobody ever seems to ask the question of the guy... "so what's her side of the story? What did you do to make this the outcome she felt was worth seeking?" In some cases the answer may be a very legitimate "nothing." But I bet in most cases the guy is trying to hide something to gain sympathy.
Originally Posted By: exranger06
Originally Posted By: Quattro Pete
Originally Posted By: exranger06
and none of you are going to talk me out of it.
Huh? Where did that come from? This thread is not about talking someone out of marriage. It's about not letting someone pressure you into it unless it's your own decision. We should all be allowed to make our own decisions in this matter.
Apparently you missed the 10+ pages of almost everyone saying marriage is a horrible idea, and one would be foolish to even consider getting married. And then one poster specifically told me to "run," unless she's really rich.
but also a few folks said, "i'm happy for you", "good for you", so there are a few folks that care for you genuinely.
so good luck, start thinking of "us", not me and her ("my future wife" comes to mind, wedding is just a ceremony) and try to get trough what life trows at you together.
it will either break both of you or make both of you stronger.
to the other guys, don't worry, you already know things could be worst, so enjoy what you have and maybe things will get better...
Bobby McFerrin anyone?
Yeah, I didn't catch that post until you quoted it, but it made me feel compelled to scan the entire thread. This thread isn't "10+ pages of almost everyone saying marriage is a horrible idea". It seems that there's certainly a fair share of people saying "I'm married and it's awesome."
Certainly though, the most vocal people seem to be either those who were wronged, or those who heard one too many stories of people being wronged. It's one thing to choose to remain a bachelor because that's just what you want (for whatever reason), it's another thing to choose to be a bachelor and then try to use second-hand stories you heard on the internet to dissuade people from connecting with another person and choosing to build a life together.
My approach through bachelorhood was this.... if I meet somebody that knocks me off my feet, I will embrace them and be the best husband I can be. If that doesn't happen and my money gets spent on Porsches instead of raising a family, that's fine too. The point is to go with the flow and make the best out of the hand that life deals you.
To me the most amusing part about the stories about guys getting taken for all they've got is that nobody ever seems to ask the question of the guy... "so what's her side of the story? What did you do to make this the outcome she felt was worth seeking?" In some cases the answer may be a very legitimate "nothing." But I bet in most cases the guy is trying to hide something to gain sympathy.